Post # 1
My co-worker lost it today because she was elated that she was pregnant, but then bled profusely for three days and her “period” is suddenly gone. I (obviously) asked if this was the norm for her cycle, but it is not.
She said her period came a week early and ended about three days early.
So, for those who are willing to talk about it (I do NOT mean to offend anyone or make them feel uncomfortable), how much did you bleed when you miscarried? How were you sure (did you take a pregnancy test? Was it later on in your pregnancy ? I’d love to offer her some insight as she is absolutely devastated right now and really has no one to confide in.
Thank you in advance for answering this very personal, very invasive question.
Post # 3
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I’m so sorry for your friend and I’ll answer even though I’m not sure itd apply but I had a miscarriage at 19 weeks. Right before it happened I bled more than usual. Before it would be only a bit after intercourse and this time it was more like a period- sorry if tmi. I , stupidly, thought it was normal at the time and miscarried that same night, though from what I hear women that miscarry have to oh to the hospital for a d&c, I think?
Eta the reason I wasn’t sure my situation would apply was because I didn’t know I miscarried until it actually happened..
Post # 4
For me at least, it wasn’t just bleeding like a period, there was no mistaking it as a period vs miscarriage because of all the (enormous) clots. Sorry if that’s tmi. If she wasn’t far along though that may be different. I was 8weeks. also, pregnancytests were still positive for me after 3 solid weeks of bleeding and passing tissue (incomplete miscarriage) so i finally had a d&c. Even right after though preg tests were still positive.
Is she going to the doctor for Bloodwork or Ultrasounds?
ETA: its nice how supportive you are being for her.
Post # 5
She might have experienced a chemical pregnancy which is a very early pregnancy loss… The bleeding could be anywhere from a typical period to heavier with more severe cramps. It really just depends on how far along she was. I didn’t bleed for either of my miscarriages. The only signs of something going wrong was no heartbeats on ultrasound so I needed D&C’s both times. If she continues to test positive or if her bleeding/cramping continues she should see a doctor ASAP. I’m sorry for her loss 🙁 no matter how early a loss, it’s stil a pain that no woman can prepare for. She’s lucky to have your support!
Post # 6
Wow, ladies, thank you for your insight. I’m incredibly clueless about pregnancy/miscarriages, but I will share your experiences with her in the hopes that she won’t feel so alone. Thank you for sharing with me.
Post # 7
I had a chemical pregnancy in April 2012. For me it was a super super heavy period but with more clots and cramps. I went to see my GP who confirmed it was a chemical pregnancy.
Also for me it differed from a normal period as it did not start out light then gradually get heavy i went from no bleeding to very heavy bleeding in the middle of the store.
So sorry for your friends loss.
Post # 8
@jwdesiree: I’m at the tail end of a miscarriage.
I was only a few weeks along and didn’t know I was pregnant. I also have an IUD. When I first started bleeding, it went from spotting to what seemed like black tar. When the cramping/contractions started, I bled profusely. There was lots of material. I bled for about 3 days total and I’ve been spotting for two days.
A doctor confirmed the pregnancy.
Post # 9
@jwdesiree: I had two miscarriages one at 9 weeks and one at 5 weeks.
The one at 5 weeks was just like a heavy period, it only lasted 4 days and apart from a few large clots it was relatively light bleeding for a miscarriage, there was no pain either.
The miscarriage at 9 weeks was horrendous, i had contractions and i bled for 3 weeks, there were very large clots that would fall out of me without any notice, i soaked through pads in 20 minutes and felt very dizzy the whole time. It is something i wouldnt wish on anybody.
Post # 10
I know it’s a little different, but when I was younger I was going through a rough breakup and found out I was pregnant (confirmed by home tests and bold tests). It was a hard decision, but I ended up having an abortion (medical) and I think I was only about 5.5-6 weeks and it was like a heavy period that lasted a few days and then became lighter and tapered off after about a week. I know I will probably catch a lot of flak for this, so please don’t make me feel bad. I was in a bad place and now I’m engaged to someone I want to have kids with. I just wanted to pipe in because I think it can be different for everyone. Some people bleed for weeks but for me it was about a week and the heavy bleeding was over in a few days.
Post # 11
@Monicaab: I am not here to judge anybody’s beliefs or actions. Thank you so much for sharing your experience 🙂
Thanks, ladies… I know that this is such a heartbreaking topic (of which I know nothing about). I appreciate your honesty and openness.
Post # 12
I had a miscarriage in college. Like some other PPs, I didn’t even know I was pregnant until it happened. I was very lightly spotting for almost two weeks, which is why I got concerned in the first place. I did some independent research online and figured out I might be pregnant. I took a test and it was positive, so I went to the doctor to confirm/ figure out what was going on. At that point, I assumed I was having a miscarriage and I was right. The doctor estimated I was probably only 4 weeks or so when I started to miscarry and so, that’s why I didn’t bleed much (although the length of bleeding was annoying). I didn’t need a D&C or anything because the miscarriage occurred so early on.
Even though I was young and it wasn’t something I wanted in the least, dealing with the miscarriage was hard. I felt responsible, since I didn’t know I was pregnant and wasn’t taking care of myself in the best way possible (aka drinking alcohol). My now-FI (then SO) was so incredibly supportive throughout all of it, despite being terrified himself. Continue to support your friend and let her know you’re there for her!