(Closed) Sensitive topic…but for those bees who have suffered a miscarriage :(

posted 9 years ago in TTC
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@beyblade1120:  I’m sorry for your loss. Miscarriages suck…I wish that none of us had to ever go through this.

I’ve had two miscarriages. The first one was at 7 weeks and I had a natural miscarriage. My period returned 30-31 days later which is a normal cycle for me. My second miscarriage happened at 12 weeks and since it was a missed miscarriage, I had to have a D&C. I got my period 28 days after the D&C procedure and my second period was 29 days after that.

Just FYI, the first couple periods after the natural miscarriage were a lot heavier than normal. The period after my D&C was pretty normal though.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@beyblade1120: I’m so sorry you are going through this. I too suffered a natural miscarriage around 5 weeks back in December. Bleeding started on 12/31 and lasted about 7 days, it was basically like a heavy period and my hcg levels were back to 0 by the end of that week. According to my chart, I O’d on 1/14 at CD 15 which is normal for me and I got AF 14 days later. I am now on my 2nd cycle post MC, and I believe I just O’d on CD 13 so it seems I went back to normal almost immediately and I feel very lucky that that was the case. If your bleeding started 2/26, then you are around CD 17 right? It’s definitely possible that you are O’ing and I don’t think it’s too soon at all. Also, I’m the same way as you. I never get EWCM, just lots of the watery stuff. But I’m keeping my FX that we both get KU again soon. 🙂

Post # 19
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2000

Hello ladies. I am new to this site as well as this board. This is my story. I suffered a mc at 9 weeks in July 2012. We went in to hear the heartbeat but it was not there. The dr said it had happened in the past day or 2 the baby just stopped developing. Saddest moment of my life that baby was my hubby’s 1st child and to remember the look on his face when he knew he wouldnt have that child to hold was almost more than I could bear. I did have to have a d & c. That was a terrible experience that haunts me to this very day. We have been ttc since then and nothing sticks. I had a tubal reversal in Dec 2011 and was so excited to get pregnant within 6 mos. now it seems like we forever live in the terrible 2ww. I am currently at 12dpo and and had a faint positive on a frer on 9dpo but everything has been so so faint since I think it may be a chemical pregnancy if any at all. Thanks for listening.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I went to the doctor the other day to chat about TTC in the next few months. I told her about my medical history including two miscarriages. She didn’t seem to care. That really bothered me but I guess it’s so common that they don’t worry until it happens a few times (how many times I’m not sure)

Post # 23
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2000

@FauxBoho:  I have to admit my Dr is very supportive but some of his nursing staff could use a little lesson in compassion. You may need to consider finding a different Dr. He has been very supportive and was almost as excite as we were when we found out we were pregnant & prayed with both of us when we found out we miscaried.

Post # 24
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2000

@beyblade1120:  Thank You…trying to hold off till sunday to poas again…..got a bfp on 9dpo but a bfn the next morning same kind of test. Its easy to become a poas addict lol. Undecided

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

@beyblade1120:  I miscarried early at 6wks2days. My period returned to normal after ~2 months (Miscarried Nov 1st, bled december 1st, bled january 1st, then period returned to it’s usual time on february 15th). I bled for 9 days, and I also did not have a D&C because it was considered complete.

(ETA: DH and I believe we miscarried in January 2012 also, but never confirmed it with a doctor).
 

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I miscarried at 5 weeks last week.  This thread has been extremely informative for me, but also inspiring.  I am in awe of all you women and your STRENGTH. While I am sad to count myself among you because it means I experienced a loss, I am also proud to be part of an amazing group of women deserving of their “rainbow baby” (I love this term!). Thank you for sharing.

Post # 27
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2000

@MrsJules:  I am so sorry for your loss. I pray you heal completely physically & emotionally.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MrsJules:  It’s a shitty club to belong to, but at least you know you’re not alone. I didn’t know anyone (outside of my Mother who had multiple) who’d had a miscarriage until I had mine. They started coming out of the woodwork to support me and I couldn’t have been more thankful. I still have a sad moment every now and then, but I figure it’s okay to still miss something you wanted but didn’t get to keep. Keep your head up and remember that there is nothing wrong with you and this was not your fault.

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@muffinluvslucy:  Thank you.

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@MrsCarnival:  That’s why the Bee has been so helpful.  My DH has been asking why I’ve suddenly been on here so often…I told him straight up it’s because these women actually get it and have provided more support to me than anyone else thus far…including him! (I didn’t say that last part, but its true).  Each day that goes by is a challenge, but hearing all of your stories really helps.

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@beyblade1120: I haven’t logged in for a while and I just caught up with your reply – dude I have been having the same issues. I’ve banned myself from October babies, it is just. too. hard. And talk about crying over stupid things – my DD was watching Tinkerbell the other day and I was sniffle crying the whole way through. Tinkerbell for Pete’s sake?!! Did you try out temping? I’ll be stalking your next BFP as well – do you know when you’ll try again? Hope you’re doing ok xx

Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks which was really devastating. I was lucky that I didn’t need a D&C, but being 10 weeks I saw the foetus a sight that is forever imbedded in my mind. 

My cycle took a good 3 months to return to normal. 

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