Post # 1
The last 24 hours has been a mess of anxiety for me. A couple of friends and myself are planning a weekend road trip that required me to get an exact time from my boss when I would be getting off from work. (I am a nanny and never know when she will dismiss me or when her husband will be home.) So I sent a text to her saying.. “I was wondering if I could get an exact time I will be leaving on Saturday becasue I am leaving town that afternoon and am carpooling with a group of people that need an exact time I will be there.”
After I had sent this text to her I started texting with a friend about the trip.. My friend says..”Maybe if you are lucky they will let you go early” …Then I write back… “ORRRR, What would be even better is if David would actually be a damn father to his kids and get his ass home and I can have the day off 🙂 not holding my breath though” This was the one sent to my boss… She sent me a prompt text back saying that was fine if I had the day off and she could get her mom to watch the kids or the neighbor girl. Knowing there was no way in heck I could get out of this I sent her a quick text back saying “HOLY CRAP! I am so sorry nicol.. I was talking to my friend who wouldnt get off my back about giving them a time we could leave so that is what I said to him. I did not mean it to be mean spirited or to sound as bitchy as it came off in the text. I don’t blame you if you are completely put off with me. If I recieved a text like that I would be to! I feel so bad and am really sorry.” She told me it was fine and added a winky face and changed the subject back to the scheduel. (On a bright note I only am working their for 4 more days after today becasue I put my notice in about a month ago…)
Now, a bit of back ground story.. My boss and her husband don’t have the best marriage and has cried on my shoulder numerous times on what a bad father and husband he is. As her employee I never thought it was my position to answer back or talk about this with her so I never did. I would always just listen.. She is always so sweet to me and would sometimes talk to me like we are friends… Soooo… I guess my question is, I am about to go in to work in less than 4 hours and have no idea if I should just act like nothing happend or if I should say something more to her about it… I have just been a big ball of anxiety and just want to feel better about the whole situation. Any suggestions or thoughts???
Post # 3
@Mrs.Elephant: I guess just act like nothing happened. If she mentions it to you, you can say something, but otherwise, just leave well enough alone! 🙂
Post # 4
It sounds like she likely agreed with what you wrote, so in that token, I wouldn’t stress too much about offending her. I would still likely apologize in person though. And hey, it’s 4 more days, you’ll all forget about it soon enough.
Post # 5
@greenviolets: Agree with this.
She seems to be ok with it. Don’t bring it up unless she does.
Post # 6
BUT…you only have 4 more days that you have to work there.
I don’t think you have to worry.
Live and learn.
Post # 7
Well you apologized and she accepted, I would just leave it at that unless she syas something.
Post # 8
I think you’re totally fine – you are SO lucky. You clearly must’ve been correct about him, because she seems to agree with you. I wouldn’t worry about it and I wouldn’t bring it up again – she might not be comfortable talking about it purely because it’s like admitting his shittiness is noticeable to everyone, not just her.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t worry about it…. if she brings it up then address it, but mistakes happen. I accidentally sent a ‘sex text’ to my mum once…. …. …. awkward much???!!!
Post # 10
SUPER lucky. Just act like nothing happened unless she brings it up. From the sound of their relationship, I doubt she’ll say something to him, and maybe she’s even had the same thoughts and is chuckling/validated because she’s not the only one that noticed.
Post # 11
@bells219: I agree.
You are sooo lucky! I wouldn’t bring it up. It sounds like she agrees/forgave you, and I don’t know what you could accomplish by bringing it back up.
Post # 12
@greenviolets: agreed. Seems like she agrees with you! And hey, this could be the start a nice a friendship, especially if she ends up leaving him
Post # 13
@bakerella: “It sounds like she likely agreed with what you wrote…” <this 100%.
I wouldn’t stress too much, but neither would I bring it up unless she does. 🙂
Post # 14
Haha I laugh only cause this is totally something that would happen to
Me.. Im a nanny too, if it were me, I would totally just pretend it never happened. And like everyone else said it kind of sounds like she agreed with you. So I wouldn’t worry too much! Good luck though!!
Post # 15
At least the text was in reference to her husband (that it sounds like she shares the same opinion of) and not her! I wouldn’t bring it up unless she does. Super awkward though… I would have freaked out too!
Post # 16
I was going to say, “Your ass is fired…” but it seems like she doesn’t disagree with you! I wouldn’t bring it up since you already apologized. I think it would just make it 10X more awkward!