Post # 1
Apparently those nearby started getting invites today. My mom got a facebook message from a great uncle joking that someone must have broken into the mail and tampered with the invitation because something that was supposed to be filled out by the recipient was already filled out. He later clarified he was talking about the response card which has the wording “__ of __ will attend.” His was “__ of 2”, since he and his wife are invited. We have a very tight limit on people and I figured this was a semi-normal way of clarifying that. My cousin just got married and had people RSVP for more than were invited so I chose to use this wording.
While my mom was still confused about what he was talking about, she asked if there was a mistake. He replied, “Yes, having [my name] plan the wedding.” This upset me even though I know I shouldn’t let it. I guess I was just so excited about sending out the invitations and it’s kind of sad for the first response to be such a negative one. I’m also wondering if I’m going to hear from more people in such a negative way. Was I totally wrong to word my response cards like this? 🙁
Post # 2
vatoca1016 : I am sorry you are dealing with comments already. The “Yes having ___ plan the wedding” is incredibly rude. You were no way wrong to word your response card that way, I did it myself and it prevented a lot of extra guests being invited. Anyone who had further questions sent me a message. Hold your head up high and count down the days till you marry your love!
Post # 3
I think it’s perfectly normal to do ___ of 2 attending type lines. Just ignore cranky family members.
Post # 4
Your uncle is upset that you’re planning your own wedding? Who the heck else would plan your wedding? Him? I’m pretty sure if you have a limited guest list what you did with the ‘2’ thing is an absolute necessity. Sorry you’re dealing with difficult people. 🙁
Post # 5
vatoca1016 : I don’t think there is anything wrong with the way you worded the rsvps. We will be doing the same to prevent unwanted children from attending. I’m not sure why it would even bother him unless he intended on bringing an uninvited guest in which he would still be in the wrong so…
Post # 6
Honestly, I would view yout uncle as an anomaly – I highly doubt you’re going to get anymore comments about having “_ of 2” attending on your RSVP cards because it’s a completely normal thing to do. He’s being rude, so I would just ignore him.
Post # 7
Your uncle is being a rude prick IMO. Don’t worry about it, he is being a jerk and you didn’t do anything snark-worthy
Post # 8
That’s exactly what I would have done if I were in your situation. Some people may not like it, and yes, the obnoxious ones will actually voice their opinions. I don’t think you should worry about it. You and your Fiance are happy with the way your wedding will be and those are the people that matter. I am sorry you had to hear that from a family member. Wishing you all the best and that you are confident in your choice of who to include!
Post # 9
You have no idea how much better just a few positive comments makes me feel! I was really afraid I messed up. My mom even said to me that she thought the response cards were kind of strange, so I was getting really worried.
Post # 10
vatoca1016 : Are you sure he wasn’t joking? You said the original comment was a joke so perhaps the second one was as well?
Even if he was, why is your mom telling you this? Ask her to keep negative comments to herself unless they are actually helpful.
FWIW, I think it’s totally normal to add this line to RSVPs nowadays but some people tend to get upset over everything.
Post # 11
Your great uncle is very rude!
Wedding planning helps you learn a lot about the people in your life.
Post # 12
MrsBeck : I’m not sure, he could’ve been. I would’ve still been hurt by the comment even if he was joking, just because he tends to say things he really thinks in a joking manner. As for why my mom told me, I was sitting right next to her when she got the message. Since he said in the original message that someone tampered with the invitation, she wanted to pass that on. Thanks for the reassurance!
Post # 13
vatoca1016 : It was rude, but to be honest it sounds like he was joking. Tone is very hard to tell on social media, especially with old people (great uncle = grandfather/grandmother’s brother, right?) who didn’t grow up with it.
Post # 14
Your response cards are just fine. Your uncle, not so much. Maybe tell your mom to filter out these ridiculous comments and not share everything with you. Wedding planning is so stressful already. You certainly don’t need your rude uncle weighing in!
Post # 15
Wow, your uncle is being a dick.
Sorry to be so blunt, but you did what you needed to do to clearly state and control your headcount.
Ignore him, and anyone else who says anything negative.
I am going to do my cards the same way, and everyone can go sit in syrup if they have a problem.