(Closed) Sent out invitations Saturday…already getting negative comments. :(

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
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414 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

vatoca1016 :  I am sorry you are dealing with comments already. The “Yes having ___ plan the wedding” is incredibly rude. You were no way wrong to word your response card that way, I did it myself and it prevented a lot of extra guests being invited. Anyone who had further questions sent me a message. Hold your head up high and count down the days till you marry your love! 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think it’s perfectly normal to do ___ of 2 attending type lines. Just ignore cranky family members. 

Post # 4
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365 posts
Helper bee

Your uncle is upset that you’re planning your own wedding? Who the heck else would plan your wedding? Him? I’m pretty sure if you have a limited guest list what you did with the ‘2’ thing is an absolute necessity. Sorry you’re dealing with difficult people. 🙁

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

vatoca1016 :  I don’t think there is anything wrong with the way you worded the rsvps. We will be doing the same to prevent unwanted children from attending. I’m not sure why it would even bother him unless he intended on bringing an uninvited guest in which he would still be in the wrong so… 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Honestly, I would view yout uncle as an anomaly – I highly doubt you’re going to get anymore comments about having “_ of 2” attending on your RSVP cards because it’s a completely normal thing to do. He’s being rude, so I would just ignore him.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Your uncle is being a rude prick IMO. Don’t worry about it, he is being a jerk and you didn’t do anything snark-worthy

Post # 8
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237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

That’s exactly what I would have done if I were in your situation.  Some people may not like it, and yes, the obnoxious ones will actually voice their opinions.  I don’t think you should worry about it.  You and your Fiance are happy with the way your wedding will be and those are the people that matter.  I am sorry you had to hear that from a family member.  Wishing you all the best and that you are confident in your choice of who to include!

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

vatoca1016 :  Are you sure he wasn’t joking? You said the original comment was a joke so perhaps the second one was as well?

Even if he was, why is your mom telling you this? Ask her to keep negative comments to herself unless they are actually helpful.

FWIW, I think it’s totally normal to add this line to RSVPs nowadays but some people tend to get upset over everything.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

Your great uncle is very rude!

Wedding planning helps you learn a lot about the people in your life.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

vatoca1016 :  It was rude, but to be honest it sounds like he was joking. Tone is very hard to tell on social media, especially with old people (great uncle = grandfather/grandmother’s brother, right?) who didn’t grow up with it.

Post # 14
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320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Your response cards are just fine. Your uncle, not so much. Maybe tell your mom to filter out these ridiculous comments and not share everything with you. Wedding planning is so stressful already. You certainly don’t need your rude uncle weighing in!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Wow, your uncle is being a dick. 

Sorry to be so blunt, but you did what you needed to do to clearly state and control your headcount. 

Ignore him, and anyone else who says anything negative. 

I am going to do my cards the same way, and everyone can go sit in syrup if they have a problem.

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