Sent out invitations Saturday…already getting negative comments. :(

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 16
2331 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

That’s how I worded my invites and to be honest, I really didn’t care of people’s opinion. It isn’t their wedding. You have to do what you have to do and that’s all there is to it. So don’t listen to rude ass comments. 

Post # 17
1890 posts
Buzzing bee

Wow, what is his problem? Because I’m sure he’s the expert on wedding invitations, men do tend to know so much about them… *eyeroll*

I’m sorry that one of your first responses to your invitations was so nasty, there will be many more positive ones, I promise!

Post # 18
11456 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Your uncle was either joking or being rude. I have no idea which, but I’m sorry that his comments have upset you at such a happy time.

As for the “____ of 2” issue, I don’t recall ever having seen this in real life, just on Weddingbee. This is also true of the “_____ seats have been reserved in your honor,” language, which I have only encountered on Weddingbee. This wording is not traditional, but, then again, neither are printed response cards. It’s possible that your uncle also had never seen this and was confused by it.

Post # 19
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Your uncle is quite rude and your mom really shouldn’t have told you all of this.  It serves no purpose but to either make you feel bad or make you mad at your uncle…or both!

There is nothing wrong with the wording.  If I’m not mistaken, I do think this wording is more of a modern norm so maybe your uncle hadn’t seen it before and was confused.  I don’t know why he’d be so nasty about it (saying you aren’t capable of planning your wedding?  WTF?) but that’s really his problem, not yours.

I wouldn’t worry about it.  I’m sure he’ll be the odd one out.  Congrats on getting the invites mailed!

Post # 20
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Older people have no idea what is acceptable these days. He is your great uncle.

My 75 year old stepmother told the baker at our cake tasting this past Saturday that I would absolutely NOT want different flavors for each tier of cake. I was like whoa whoa..yes I do!!! She laughed and said she is just old fashioned.

Your great uncle is most likely the same way….still rude but just old fashioned.

Post # 21
7643 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

teambryan :  “Older people have no idea what is acceptable these days.”

Maybe I’m sensitive because I’m over 50 but I don’t think that sort of generalisation is helpful. Older people bring lots of experience, and some are very much up with what is acceptable.

The problem isn’t his age. The problem is his attitude.

Post # 22
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

aussiemum1248 :  I stand corrected….

OP’s older great uncle sounds rude and not in touch with what’s acceptable with weddings these days as evidenced by his thought that the response card was tampered with rather than what many of us see done frequently. 

Post # 24
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

aussiemum1248 :  I just edited my post to reflect more of what I was saying about her relative.

50s is not old BTW!

Post # 25
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Yikes, rude Uncle. Ignore, and dont let it get you down.

Post # 26
4036 posts
Honey bee

If I had been your mother, I would have flat out said “If you’re so offened, then just throw the invitation away, and I’ll mark you two down as a no.”

But I’ve been the MOB twice and some people, especially my inlaws, got on my last nerve, again and again. And stomped on it and twisted it and …  yell

Post # 27
3169 posts
Sugar bee

Your uncle sounds like an asshole. To be honest the person here inwould be pulling up is your mother. Passing on that hurtful comment about you planning the wedding serves no purpose and would have been better kept to herself, after she told him it was unacceptable to say in no uncertain terms of course. 

Post # 28
7905 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Your way of wording your invite seems pretty normal nowadays. I first learned about it on weddingbee, and I also used that phrase to clarify my own invitations. Your greatuncle is probably just out of touch with wedding traditions nowadays. His other comment is a little ridiculous, and I’d just attribute it to his old age and generation gap. I bet others will be so excited to receive your invitation!

Post # 30
550 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016 - Theater

“I’m sorry Uncle Jerkface. We sent an invitation to you by mistake. We would like to cordially inform you that you nor your family are invited and also that you have poor manners.”


Put it behind you. The wording is fine and anyone who has beef with it can file a complaint at the rubbish bin, including your mom. It’s the 21st century, seems perfectly normal to me that the inviting couple decides the headcount. Not worth your time or consideration, dear bee.

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