Sent out invitations Saturday…already getting negative comments. :(

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 46
3381 posts
Sugar bee

vatoca1016 :  I’m sorry, I had no idea you were sitting right there as it happened.. I can only respond based on what you wrote – I didn’t get the impression you were sitting right there at the time. Good luck with the rest of your planning and ignore uncle going forward. 

Post # 47
4892 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We did the same thing, had the “__ of XX seats have been reserved in your honor”, and filled in where the X’s were to the number of invites. We didn’t invite kids unless we were related to them somehow, so most were 2.

People are weird and don’t really understand that you may only have enough room for so many people. So, by doing it this way, it further clarifies WHO was really invited and would hopefully prevent people thinking they could bring kids or someone else.

I had a friends wife ask me about children, as our RSVPs also had the children’s meal listed (for those we did invite), and their invite just said the two of them and not their child. I told her the reasoning and if they really wanted to bring the kid, hen one of them can stay home and the kid couold come. What annoyed me is that she was a complete witch about guest numbers when they got married, and actually wouldn’t even allow anyone extra to attend their dance when all the food, etc was done.

Don’t worry about ! It makes sense to me!!

Post # 48
155 posts
Blushing bee

Your uncle is a jerk. 

Post # 49
646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

You should carefully plan the invite to ensure that the correct number attends. A friend of mine had her wedding at a lodge in the mountains and didn’t specify on the RSVP card that it was only the guest and a +1. Anyways, one of her cousins ended up inviting his girlfriend and her three kids and they turned it into their family vacation. This caused them to go over capacity and created a big upset with the family when she suggested telling him that his girlfriend’s kids couldn’t come. She had to uninvite other guests to accommodate the extra unwelcome guests. 

Post # 50
150 posts
Blushing bee

vatoca1016 :  If I’m reading it correctly, it sounds like it was a very good idea to put “_ of 2” as your great uncle wanted to add more people on to it! Which is so so rude to add on more people than those specificed on the invite.



Post # 52
3381 posts
Sugar bee

vatoca1016 :  You’re welcome! I was a super crabapple at the time I posted my response, so I take full credit:)

Post # 53
2554 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014


I think I get it!  The “no show” comment tipped me off.  So I think your uncle thinks that you’re saving two seats regardless of what he replies back.  Which is just all kinds of stupid but I would definitely let him know he’s off-base because otherwise he may tell you he’s not coming and change his mind at the last minute because you’re saving two seats for him right?

That or he’s being purposefully dense because he’d intended to bring a dozen extra guests and he’s pissed off that you prevented him from doing so.

Post # 54
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I’m petty AF, but I’d send him a new response card that says “_ of 0 invited will attend” lol

But for real – I’m thinking this will be the worst backlash you get. The vast majority of people are not this tactless! Good luck and congratulations!

Post # 55
627 posts
Busy bee

brereuther :  LOL

vatoca1016 :  What you did is perfectly normal. I don’t know what his intentions were, but I’ve found that life is a lot more enjoyable if you chalk as much as possible up to good intentions/awkward moment/weird sense of humor.

Your mom could ask him if he’s offering to finish planning for you ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 56
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Yeah joking or not, he came across as rude, and you did nothing wrong! We still don’t know how we’re laying out our invites but yours sound great.

Post # 57
2575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

What a dick!

Post # 58
1724 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Honestly, if I was your mom, I’d have not passed that comment along, knowing it was just snarky and rude and would only hurt your feelings.  Feeling good we eloped ๐Ÿ™‚

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