Sent Save-the-Dates and getting RSVPs?!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
3274 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Yeah, I think so.

Post # 3
952 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I would still send the formal invite to people who said they won’t make it. It’s better to do that than risk them being offended they didn’t get an invite. Also, what if their plans fall through and they decide they can go after all? I think it’s just safer to send the invites.

Post # 4
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I had two declines from my save the date, one was my friend who was best man in another wedding, one was husband’s mum’s friend. When the time came for invites, I checked in with my friend and with husband’s mum, and both confirmed their other plans were still in place. It depends on how close you are to them – if in doubt, ask closer to the date or send the invite.

Post # 5
5170 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I would send them an invitation anyway but I think it is nice of them to let you know. 

Post # 6
1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I had a few friends tell me they couldn’t make it after I sent out STDs, but I still sent them an invitation and wrote a little sticky note that said “I know you said you weren’t able to make it, but if your plans change for any reason, we would love to have you!”

Post # 9
1195 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I second (third?) 

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sparkosity :  ‘s idea! Definitely still send the invite- some people like to hold on to them as keepsakes!

Post # 10
559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2018 - City, State

I would ignore these rsvps and send invites anyway because alot can change from now to then and you want an accurate representation of attendees. God knows how many will change their mind 

Post # 11
774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

This is a completely normal thing. People are excited and people have plans, especially around graduation. We sent out invites to everyone that received a Save the Date, even though a handful told us they couldn’t be there. We received some nice cards and gifts in the mail from those who could not attend.

Post # 12
197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Similar thing happened to me.  I still ended up sending the invites, in case plans changed.  Plus, the online RSVP we used allowed personalized invites, so you can mention ‘I know you might not be able to make it, but if you are, we’d love for you to join us.’  And if you have a website, most people like to be included, maybe look at photos, even if it’s just for a minute.  I think etiquette actually says no invite for people who say they can’t make it, but who follows that stuff anyway, haha..

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