Post # 1
So way back in October, we sent out our Save-The-Date Cards. We went a little crazy gathering addresses, and we asked one of our groomsman’s girlfriends for hers (let’s call him K and her L). L wrote us back and gave it to us, but she said “you can just send one to K.”
For some reason, it absolutely never occured to us that they would break up before our wedding…but they did. Now I am wondering, do we have to send an invitation to L? We both liked her A LOT, but she wasn’t someone we ever saw alone–only when K was there. Neither of them live near us. She will not have any friends at the wedding besides the other groomsmen.
Post # 3
Do you plan on hanging out with her ever again? If not than don’t invite her.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t invite her. I’m sure she’d feel just as awkward as you would!
Post # 5
I know it’s an odd situation since you sent the STD, but I would not send an invite. You say she doesn’t live nearby, wouldn’t know anyone and that you never spend time with just her…assuming they don’t get back together, will you be likely to ever see her again? It sounds like she is basically not a part of you life anymore, so I don’t think you have to invite her (and I really don’t think you should…it could lead to a seriously awkward situation if it was a bad break-up) and I’m sure she won’t think anything of it or expect an invitation now that they broke up.
Post # 6
I honestly will never see her again unless they get back together! She is so sweet though…and I want them to get back together. But it would be very awkward to invite her with the hope that they’d rekindle things.
We are going to give +1s to our bridal party, so my hope is that the groomsman will get himself together in the next 5 months and ask her to come with him.
Post # 7
Phew. I feel so much better now! Thanks ladies!
A piece of advice for anyone who hasn’t sent out save the dates…don’t send them to people who are +1s!!!
Post # 8
I would gather you only sent her an invite bc she was K’s girlfriend. You were not friends before, so you do not have to invite her. This happened to me, we broke up 2 mths before a friends wedding and invitations went out before people really knew we broke up. One I had no desire to go, the wedding was in DC, I was in Ohio and while I loved my Ex’s friends and we were close, I did not wish to be in the same room with him. I only knew them through him and since I am no longer with him, I felt it would have been ackward for some and disrespectful for me to accept their invitation since they did not know we’d broken up when they were mailed. I only asked and the gracefully agreed, for my money back for the hotel I paid for and my ex paid me back my airfare. Funny side note, that was 5 yrs ago and his friends still talk to me but don’t have a relationship with him!