Post # 1
My fiancé and I have a lot of people that will be travelling to our wedding from several different countries and continents. Because we wanted people to have the opportunity to arrange for travel as soon as possible, we sent out save the dates almost immediately after we got engaged.
Now it’s 8 months to our wedding and we feel like we have all of our invitation information together and want to send it out – but i feel like it is too soon! We have several friends who are getting married the month before us and we JUST received their save the dates. I don’t want it to look like we are over-zealously sending out our wedding information to people.
We’ve been discussing sending out invitations early just to the people who we know will be travelling or possibly sending an e-mail update out to the people we know are travelling so they can arrange for flights and hotels earlier than those who are local.
We do NOT have a wedding website – otherwise we would post all of this information there, but our parents are really opposed to the idea.
Post # 3
I would email/call all the out of country/continent people now and hold off until about 4 or 5 months to send the invites. The problem with sending some invites early (which seems like a good option otherwise) is that people who you DIDN’T send to early hear about it and are left wondering when their invitation is coming or if they were left out.
Post # 4
It’s fine that you sent Save-The-Date Cards early.
Just wait until 2-3 months out to send invitations. If you send them out this soon, people are going to completely forget to RSVP, because they’ll immediately go, ‘oh wow I have so much time, I don’t have to worry about this.’ And then they’ll set it aside and completely forget about it.
Things happen as well, and people who you would invite today may not be extremely close to you in eight months. Sometimes you drift apart.
Is there a reason your parents are so opposed to a wedding website? They are completely free, extremely easy to set up, and make everything so much easier on everyone.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@ekmwarren: Why do they care about a wedding website? That is so weird. They’re incredibly handy and waaaaay easier on your guests. Maybe you should just overrule them.
I’d wait til ~4 months out for your invites, since people already know the date.