Sentimental about engagement ring yes or no?

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
  • poll: Would you ever change or upgrade your engagement ring?
    No never! It's sentimental to me bc they picked it out themselves :) : (42 votes)
    28 %
    No because we picked it out together and it's exactly what I want! : (52 votes)
    35 %
    Maybe but only if they suggested it not me! : (10 votes)
    7 %
    Yes!! If I'm able to afford to do so or liked something better why not! : (46 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 32
    Member
    10102 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    I have my original but I also have alternates too. I’ll always keep my original ring but I may wear another one instead.

    Post # 33
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    6651 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2016

    i am extremely sentimental about the ring I have that we designed together. I’m not very sentimental about the ring that he surprised me with as a stand in (which he selected on his own). My ring is a sapphire and I adore it and I’ve also told him that if I could have a blue diamond (lab created in the same color as natural blue diamonds) the same size and a similar color as my sapphire, I might like to switch to that one day down the line (sapphires pick up oil really quickly and seem to show dirt faster than diamonds or moissy). He said he was fine with it but also made sure to tell me that that woudn’t be my engagement ring, though, because that’s not the stone he proposed with. πŸ˜‰

    I agree with those saying to hold off on planning any other changes to your ring and just enjoy the ring that you’re getting and the effort he’s put in thus far. Then make sure to come here so we can moon over it with you and give it lots of appreciation. Down the road, he might be less bothered by the idea of an upgrade.

    Post # 35
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    2445 posts
    Buzzing bee

    sweetpea40 :  If you think your Fiance would be OK getting advice from a third party (because obviously he doesn’t want your direct input) in regards to getting the best bang for his buck, I’d be happy to chat with him! I’ve spent YEARS on pricescope. πŸ˜›

    Post # 39
    Member
    217 posts
    Helper bee

    I love mine, and I will never upgrade it. It has sentimental value, it is engraved in my native language (unique alphabet), and he put an extra thought to make sure to surprise me. When I look at it takes me back to the day of the proposal which was amazing.  I never told him anything about carat or setting or budget, the only thing he knew was that I wanted pear shaped ring. The rest I left to him.  

    I don’t mind getting another ring for anniversary, as I have a long list of dream rings LOL but that would not be an upgrade, just an anniversary ring,which would be special in its own way.  

    I think it’s better to focus on the ring and the occassion for now without mentioning future upgrades, because he is probably already super nervous and might not see what you mean. 

    Post # 41
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    285 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2019

    thatgirlelle :  Oh man I couldn’t help but laugh at your post. So sweet of him to try but that is definitely an interesting ring lol. I was so afraid of not liking my ring that we ended up picking it out together. Hopefully your wedding band is something you like!

    Post # 42
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    7898 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    What is a “better performing” diamond? It’s also possible that once you get your ring, you won’t even want to upgrade in the future. I would see how this ring goes. There are more important things than how big your diamond is. 

    Post # 43
    Member
    11 posts
    Newbee

    I’m not sentimental about my rings, they are just jewelry to me.  I even switch them up time to time and I am in the middle of a custom reset as we speak.  

    My husband and I have been together more years in our lifetimes than not being together. And we’ve been through a long journey together.  Our love and sentiments for each other run deep inside, invisible to all but us. No material thing is enough to symbolize it nor be a form of validation for it. 

    That being said, I do know that many men place a lot of pride in “providing” the best they can for their girlfriends, so to those guys when their best is not good enough or disappoints you, I think it truly makes them feel bad and like they failed. I’m not sure if this is the case with your guy but it’s a fairly common scenario that I keep hearing/reading about.

    Post # 44
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    1268 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2017 - Hagakyrkan

    sweetpea40 :  my ering I would upgrade or change, but not my wedding band!! Its so much more important to me. If I don’t absolutely have to it will NOT leave my finger!! 

    Post # 45
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    52 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2019

    Im extremely sentimental lol. Personally, I dont desire to upgrade/date my ring in the future & I expressed this to my Fiance when we went ring shopping. We only went once but that was enough for him to see my style & what I absolutely didnt like. He knew how much I value things like this & that changing it once it was on my finger was OUT of the question. Ultimately, he got me a ring that totally fits my personality that I adore. The PP who mentioned compromise is on to something. Can you guys come together & make it possible to get that stone & size you want?

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