Post # 1
Does anyone here have a separate bedroom and not share one with their spouse or partner?
My boyfriend started a new job and he wakes up ridiculously early. I’m a light sleeper and go to bed very late, so the different schedules have left me feeling fatigued everyday because I end up waking up when he does.
Post # 2
I know of a couple that sleeps in separate rooms because of the husband snoring. Seems to work fine for them.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
Sounds like a healthy option for you two at this stage in your lives
Post # 4
I think it’s a fantastic idea.
Post # 5
My friend is on the same schedule as you. They have separate bedrooms during the week and stay in the same bedroom on the weekends.
Post # 6
My husband and I have separate bedrooms. We both sleep so much better in our own beds. We plan to eventually get a king sized bed and sleep in the same room but for now we just sleep in separate bedrooms because that’s what allows us to get the best sleep.
Post # 7
We have separate bedrooms and things are just fine between us
Post # 8
Yes, my husband and I have separate bedrooms. He suffered a TBI that causes him to thrash in his sleep so sleeping in the same bed is a nightmare for me. We tried it for a while but decided separate rooms were the way to go. We are both happy having our own space. Eventually we will have to get a bigger bed and move into the same room together once we have children but it works for now.
Post # 9
minnewanka : Yeah. He wakes up at 4:30 am and I don’t go to bed until midnight on most days. The whole week has been like this and I’ve barely been able to function at work.
Post # 10
We have the same (or very similar sleep schedules) so we share the same room, but we don’t necessarily share the same bed or blankets. We put 2 twin beds (adjustable bed base) side by side making it a king and we have 2 twin duvets because Darling Husband has a habit of stealing it in the middle of the night. Even with separate comforters he somehow manages to steal mine sometimes 🤦🏻♀️ some people think it’s weird but it works for us and I love this new arrangement! I think whatever works best for the couple is best. There is no right or wrong way per se.
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn
jasminek : we do. I am a very light sleeper too. Dh has different work hours and likes to stay up later than I do. He also snores like a freight train. We have tried sleeping in the same bed but it just doesn’t work. I get zero sleep. So, he will lay with me in bed and cuddle until I fall asleep. Then he gets up and most of the time goes out and watches some TV then goes to bed himself. We would love to be able to sleep in the same bed, but if we’re both being honest, we kind of enjoy having a whole bed to ourselves too lol. But for now, this arrangement works well for us.
Post # 12
My husband sleeps in the single bed in his office. He stays up later (usually) but also his shifts swing around a lot so sometimes he has to get up to gon in at 5am. So…we sleep apart. Works for us. He always comes in and we cuddle and spend time together before bed. We just sleep apart.
Post # 13
Your schedules sound super similar to my husband and I. I get up at 4:45 and he gets up at 10 most days lol. He is a crazy light sleeper and for the first 6 months always woke up with me and was grouchy about it!! Now he sleeps through absolutely everything. You may adjust to his routine with time. I personally could never do separate bedrooms, but I know it works for a lot of people.
Post # 14
We don’t have seperate bedrooms but sometimes one of us will sleep in the guest room instead. My wife has asthma and if I’ve got a cold or a respiratory infection, I prefer to sleep in the guest room to try and quarantine my germs from her (especially due to her asthma!) and also so I won’t keep her awake with all of my sneezing/coughing/nose-blowing.
I also have to keep odd hours for my job – I sometimes have very early morning meetings with one of our international locations (4 or 5 am!), so when those occur, I’ll sleep in the guest room so my alarm and the noise of me getting ready won’t disturb her.
We also both periodically suffer from insomnia, and will often sleep (or try to sleep!) in seperate rooms so the other can have undisturbed rest.
I know having the ability to sleep in seperate rooms/beds isn’t always financially possible, but I think having the ability to do so when needed is really good and healthy for a relationship. We are less likely to bicker or right over meaningless things if we’re better rested.
Post # 15
I have a friend who has a separate bedroom from her SO because she’s a light sleeper–it works for them! Sleep is so, so important for daily functioning. You should do whatever works for you both.