(Closed) Separate Invitations for Adult Children Still Living at Home????

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Appropriate? Send one to each adult, even if they live in the same household.

What I did? Send one to the whole house and save a little money!

Post # 4
793 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@savealife:  This is pretty much exactly what I did too! I am clearly not an etiquette follower lol.

Post # 6
11419 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Each single adult (i.e. children 18 and older) should get his or her own invitation.  Obviously, a couple would only need one.  In your example, you would send one to the parents and one to the adult son residing with his parents.

(For the record, however, I did not know this rule until after I joined Weddingbee, and I listed one of my friend’s children who is over the age of 18 on the same invitation with her parents and younger siblings.)

Post # 7
799 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

They will not care. Is it proper etiquette? Probably not. What will happen to the one invitation you send? It will go in the trash, so dont send two. 

Post # 8
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I wouldn’t. 

Post # 9
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I did this, and then only got one RSVP that covered both invitations sent to the same house.  Grr.  Send them one.  However, I wouldn’t address the envelope the typical way (parents on top, kids on second line).  Instead, address it to the “So-and-so family”.

Post # 10
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I send separate invitations in the one envelope. but you don’t have to… do what you like! its better to keep spares for your older relatives because I have since learned that old ladies have a bit of an obsession with keeping wedding invitations and if they lose theirs for it gets dirty, they will ask for another one! grrrrrr….

Post # 11
7493 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

My Aunt and Uncle had 4 adult children living with them at the time of our wedding- no freaking way was I was sending 5 invitations to their house.  Ettiquitte be damned.

Post # 12
4929 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Just send one.

I would consider this one of those etiquette “suggestions” rather than hard rules.

Post # 13
5544 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

If they were the kind who would keep it for like a scrapbook I would get it,  but if they live together no one is going to hang two of the same invitation on their fridge. It seems wasteful to.me!  

Post # 14
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would only send one. I think it’s excessively persnickety to demand separate invitations, and I doubt an adult who’s still living with their parents is going to call you out for it.

Post # 15
4687 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@savealife:  haha exactly! I have to squeeze 5 names onto one!

Post # 16
85 posts
Worker bee

It depends. As someone who has been an adult living at home, I would have really appreciated getting my own invitation but definitely could understand someone not wanting to send several invitations to one address. So, if it’s not too much hassle I’d send two, but if it is then just send one.

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