Post # 1
Maybe I’m overreacting but something that really made me sad/upset. A friend of mine invited me and Fiance to go camping. When I say camping I mean the hardcore no bathroom, eating seeds and berries type backpacking. This is COMPLETELY not me. Now Fiance just signed up without even asking me or us even discussing it. I realize that we don’t have to do everything together (and we don’t) but I guess it would have been nice to have been asked how I feel about attending this event.
I do lots of things that my Fiance likes even though I might not find the events fun. I guess I just sometimes feel like he still doesn’t always think in a mindset of 2 people yet and that’s really hard sometimes.
Post # 3
Why doesn’t he just go by himself? Did he sign you up too? Can you un-sign up?
Post # 4
I think he should check with you before signing you up for a trip. If he was just signing himself up (without you) I don’t know that he necessarily should check with you first, but it would be nice if he did.
DH and I take trips seperately (I’m going away for a night this weekend with some girls to horseback ride and he and I do not share that interest), but I usually check with him before signing up for anything, mainly because I want to make sure he’s ok with me being away and since we share finances we agree that the cost of the trip is ok.
Post # 5
My Fiance and I go on separate trips all the time.
I’m big into horseback riding, him, not so much. He’s a big scenic driver/photographer, like covering 300 miles in a single day to go take pictures, kind of guy. It’s sometimes my thing, sometimes not.
We’re comfortable with our differences and make it work. I’d just ask if you could be”excused” from this little adventure if it makes you that uncomfortable. Then again you can always give it a shot and maybe fall in love with backpacking! I’m sure you’ll see some beautiful scenery that most folks won’t ever get to see!
Post # 6
It can go either way. My SO and I sign up for things on our own and then discuss later, and occasionally, I’ll ask him if he wants to go depending on how comfortable I would be if he was/wasn’t there and consult with him before making decisions.
I believe in being together and separate. If I want to go somewhere and he doesn’t, then oh well, there’s always next time.