Post # 1
I found a dress that I absolutely loved, and stored it in my favorites for future reference…until I saw a photo of the dress on someone who was larger than the model I first saw it on. I was totally bummed. I am a curvy girl and I’m not sure how I fell into that mind trap of self-comparison with models and such.
The girl that I saw it on wasn’t fat by any means, but the dress looked significantly different on her than it did on the model. Because I’m curvy I just decided it would be best to look at plus size wedding gowns.
Did/does anyone else have this issue with dress selection? How do you look at “normal” dresses and try to envision what they’d look like on you, when you look nothing like the model wearing it?
Post # 3
I think this is the exact reason we see so many posts asking people to post pictures of themselves in specific dresses. I have a few dresses picked out ahead of time, but for the most part I’m trying not to fall in love with any particular dress before I try them on because I know I will look totally different in them that the model does. Try not to get too into picking a dress until you actually go and try them on. Then pick a dress based on what they look like on YOU, not what they look like online. You can get a style in mind that you want, but I have found the more you look at dresses online (on models), the more you set yourself up for disappointment. Also, if you have a specific dress in mind, you might not be as open to trying on other types of dresses that you didn’t like on the model, but may look fantastic on you!
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
This is why I never even bothered to browse dresses in magazines and online. The way a dress looks on a waif is not the way it would ever look on my size 18 body. It was just so useless looking at bridal images that are so out of touch with my personal reality. So instead of walking in with a pre-conceived notion of what my dress “should” look like, I walked in and told my consultant how I wanted to feel in my dress and let them do the dress selection for me. They dress brides every day, so I let them do their job and kept an open mind. It worked for me, and I never once worried about what my dress looked like on the designer’s model. All that mattered was what it looked like on me. 🙂
Note: This approach works best at well-run boutiques. Don’t depend on Davids or AA to help you narrow down your search. their approach is to throw everything and the kitchen sink at you without taking into account your body shape or dress goals. If you need to shop at DB or AA, go there AFTER you’ve hit a few good boutiques and started to learn what does/does not work for your body and your personal style.
Post # 5
The dresses, regardless of size of person wearing it, always look different in person than the stock image. I didn’t like my dress at all from the stock image, but it looks way different in person and I obviously love it! 🙂
It’s not all that helpful to find dresses online that you like, you really just have to go and try them on! I tried on a handful of dresses I saw online that I liked and they were all awful in person – either they weren’t right for my body or they just looked so much different in person than they did in pictures.
Post # 6
I actually HATE my dress in the stock photo, so I’m glad I didn’t see it prior to trying it on. So it’s not only the model that will make the dress look different, but the DRESS will look different. Like a pp said, stop looking online – you won’t know until you’re IN the dresses anyway!
Post # 7
It’s funny, I would have never even considered not looking at stock photos. But it makes the most sense here. I also just feel scared that not looking at dresses will overwhelm me if I go into a bridal shop without an idea. So, I am torn on this really.
Post # 8
This is what I did, I mostly looked at dresses on plus size models so i would have an idea of what they would look like on me. I tried on a few that were on skinny models and liked them, but it was less of a shock when I saw myself in the first dress since I was used to seeing it on someone my size.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Stop looking at photoshopped models and just go in and try on dresses. If you must look at the models keep it in the back of your mind that these women look nothing like real women because they are airbrushed and photoshopped into alien lifeforms that do not exist on this planet. Maybe try ripping their heads off in magazines when you find a dress you like to remind yourself that these are not real people.
Post # 10
I kind of have the opposite problem: I’m petite with an apple-shape and an incredibly short torso. So no clothes on me ever look remotely like the model, hehe. That being said, when I’ve seen pictures of bees in wedding dresses here on the boards, I think they actually look way better than the models do! Every single time! So nuts to the models! Plus, I remember Vera Wang one time saying something to the effect that most of the wedding dress models are 14-year-old size zeros who haven’t eaten in weeks. So how is that reality anyway:)?
Post # 11
With my first dress, I definitely fell for the illusion (JCrew Corrina):
I bought it, shrieked with joy when it arrived, tried it on and realised that while it looked OK – it wasn’t the ideal dress for a short person.
I’m only 5’3 – and the model is what… 6 feet tall? So I changed to a dress that I felt was more suitable for my body type and now I’m much happier. So, I think self-comparison happens to all of us – and not only when it comes to the dress. I try to arrange a simple wedding, but all the online photos make me get a little carried away!
Post # 12
In my case, the reason I tried on the dress was because I liked how it looked on the model. I went into it knowing that it would not look the same on me. I am shorter and larger than the model.
Maggie Sottero Decadence
But when I tried it on myself, I also loved it on me. I am obviously not wearing the crinoline, and I was 18 lbs heavier in the photo than I am now, with 8 months still left to lose and tone. But I still fell in love with it. And I think it looks rather nice on me, if I do say so myself! 😉
Post # 13
@BabyCarat: I totally agree. I love the dresses I see on real women on the boards.
Post # 14
@Stargaze31: omg you look gorgeous!
Post # 15
@JJ920: Could you please tell me the exact name (model) of the dress? I think it’s pronovias/san patrick but I dont remember the style. I actually love that dress too 🙂
Post # 16
I am pretty petite so I was bummed when I tried on a lot of mermaid and fit n’ flare gowns and they just showed me how short I actually was. A lot of the models are pretty tall so the gowns are going to look a lot different on them then they did on me. This is why trying on different styles is so important, because you might have this dream dress in your head but you try it on and it looks horrid. It is also important to keep in mind that the gowns you try on are not going to fit you and will look a lot better after alterations.