Post # 1
My FH and I have two friends (let’s call them Rain and Carter) who are a couple in our bridal party. Originally, I was going to have them walk together, just because it made sense. However, since then Carter has been made a Best Man. (I have two MOHs, and FH had a really tough time choosing between Carter and other Bridesmaid or Best Man, so he bumped him up). Now I want the MOHs and BMs to walk together, because obviously the MOHs should be closest to me, and the Bridesmaid or Best Man should be closest to him. This would mean, though, than Rain would be walking with another Groomsmen. To me, it doesn’t seem like a big deal; I mean, it’s just less than three minutes walking down the aisle, and some pictures. After that she can be with him all night, sit by him- frankly it won’t bother me. But I know she’s going to EXPLODE when she finds out, because she only sees him on weekends and is obsessed with getting him to propose (which he has no intention of doing, and says so explicitly). I know he’ll be relieved, because he didn’t want to walk with her since it will only “make her think stuff she shouldn’t” and will be walking with my best friend who he adores (much to Rain’s understandable dismay). What should I do?
Post # 3
You shouldn’t have to make someone a Maid/Matron of Honor to appease them.
Like you said it’s only 3 minutes!
It’s your bridal party! what does your Fiance think?
Post # 4
I agree – the best man walks with the Maid/Matron of Honor. Surely she can cope for that short amount of time.
Post # 5
He doesn’t even want to walk down with his woman? Yikes… that’s the most alarming part, not the actualy problem at hand. I’d vote they not walk together, only because I feel bad for the dude, who should have the balls to stand up for himself. But that’s another issue entirely.
Post # 6
@regberadaisy: I haven’t made anyone a Maid/Matron of Honor for them. My MOHs are my sister and my best friend; Rain is just a Bridesmaid or Best Man. However, Carter and another friend, Bruce, are my FH’s best men.
@milesbella: Thanks, I just don’t want to deal with any drama :/
@vmec: Yeah, he’s afraid she’ll get even more pressuring on the whole marriage thing. What I say is, I couldn’t stand my FH proposing to me just because I kept pushing it.
Post # 7
Jeeze Louise, it really is only 3 minutes.. I don’t understand why people get so upset about these things
Post # 8
so Rain will get her panties in a wad if her Boyfriend or Best Friend (the groomsman) is walking down the aisle with a Maid/Matron of Honor instead of her???
heheheh [insert evil laugh here] is Maid/Matron of Honor single? because im in a bad mood today so i would be imposing MOH/GM photos, dance and sitting together at the table and anything else i could to mess with Bridesmaid or Best Man – of course in a few hours i will feel terrible about these ideas
Post # 9
This is actually the exact time when it is appropriate to split up a couple. Of course the Bridesmaid or Best Man is paired with the Maid/Matron of Honor. It’s literally 30 seconds down the aisle. It’s not like they are going to making out as they exit! If she has a fit tell her she’s welcome to sit in the pews with the rest of the guests : )
Post # 10
@eloping: Lol, no. Maid/Matron of Honor is in a seroius relationship and has been for almost as long as FH and I (long distance, though so I don’t know him that well). However Carter had a crush on her for a long time and is still unnecessarily friendly with her (I do feel for her on this part).
Post # 11
I have a similar situation! I have 2 MOHs. FI’s best man’s wife is one of my BMs. What I’m going to do is have my 2 MOHs walk down together. Then the best man can walk down with his wife. They’re great about it and are fine with walking with other people but I figured this will work so why not?
I think in your situation you shouldn’t feel guilty for splitting them up! They can all be adults for just a few minutes of your wedding!
Post # 12
OP: Don’t even worry about it. It’s like a 5 second walk. If she has a problem with it, smack her and tell her to STFU and that it’s your day! ^_^
Post # 13
Oh for crying out loud, unless her guy gropes the Maid/Matron of Honor, she has absolutely no reason to be pissed off about this.
Post # 14
I don’t think it’s a big deal. We have a couple in our bridal party – he’s the best man but she’s not my Maid/Matron of Honor. They’re grown-ups, they can handle spending a few minutes walking with someone else. Just my opinion.
Post # 15
Do you have a lot of people in your bridal party? If you want to keep the peace, you could have everyone walk separately. I’ve seen this done at a lot of weddings with smaller bridal parties- one person goes down the aisle at a time.
Post # 16
I agree that it’s 2 minutes and a few photos. I think that they can manage spending that time apart. If she flips out, you can just let her know that it’s your decision, and it’s not up for discussion!
@eloping: That cracked me up!