Post # 16
I personally am a HUGE fan of the Friday night weddings When we went looking for a date, we purposefully booked a Friday night because we wanted to give poeple the whole weekend to party it up with us (which is why we didn’t book out flights for the honeymoon until Monday). Those that are aggervated they have to take off of work? Those are probably the very same people we "had to invite" because they’re family members we only see at Christmas and Easter – and odds are we didn’t want them to come anyway.
As for the 9/11 issue, if you had to ask about it on a board, you’re probably not that comfortable with it. Go with your gut – are you ok with it? If so, it’s your wedding. Personally, my mom’s birthday is on 9/11, and it’s always really awkward for me (having gone to school near NYC) to watch the ceremonies all day and remember where I was when it all happened, and then call my mom to wish her a happy birthday. Either way (June or September) you’re getting married, though, so keep that in mind!! 🙂 good luck!
Post # 17
Thanks everyone for all of your input!
carolineg you made me laugh so hard!!!! I remembered that with Guliani and thats why I thought it would be ok to do that but my mom almost choked when I told her so…
Lilbird you have more guts than I do waiting to see if something would open up but I"m so happy it worked out for you!
Sparkles I am joining you with the wedding date of June 26th! And now I’m freakin out a bit. This whole wedding thing just got real really quick. September seemed so far away but June is only 9 months from now!!!! Oh geez!!!!
Thanks again for all of your advice! Good luck with everything!
Post # 18
Emily- Congrats on the decision.. I know how you feel! I have spent the last 9 months planning my sisters wedding and all I have done for my own is boke a venue. Now that I am less than 10 months out, I am semi-panicked!
I do have a friend that planned her wedding in less than 5 months. She reminds me that, "planning a wedding only takes as long as you have to plan it." GENIOUS!
I know the next 10 months (9 for you) will just fly by. So try to enjoy it… you will only be engaged for a short time and you will be married for a very long time 🙂
Post # 19
@ suzanno You say, "While I’m still sad about that, I am actually more pissed off than anything by the annual "mourning" of people who didn’t actually lose anyone."
Why would other people’s GENUINE sadness evoke anger rather than empathy? Do you think only those directly involved should have the priviledge of grieving for a tragedy? So would it make you angry that I mourn the deaths of people who were killed in Holocaust decades ago or in a hurricane halfway around the world?
As a more direct response, I wouldn’t think it was disrespectful of you to have a wedding on 9/11 but I am often sad / pensive on this date so would feel that this would taint for me any celebration I at which I was a guest.
I work in Manhattan and although I didn’t know anyone personally who was killed… I still find myself terribly sad on the day.. imagining people like me in an office just like mine on a sunny days with blue skies… not expecting what was about to happen.
Post # 20
I agree that it’s a sad day, whether you’ve lost someone or not. It’s a sad day for the world BUT like someone said earlier – love wins over violence. Your wedding will resemble love, togetherness and celebration for something beautiful ….. and I think many of your guests, if you choose that day …. will only be able to think of your happiness and gratefulness.
Personally, I think 9/11 shouldn’t be a cloud over our heads. We mourn for our great loss but we also remind ourselves of the strength and heroism of the people around us.
Post # 21
I think people are more likely to take a Friday off in June. I personally wouldn’t want 9/11 as my anniversary…