Post # 16
I’m sorry you’re going through this. It sucks. It really depends on when you want to be legally married and if you want to wait that long, because there is no vaccine and even though they are trying to fast track it who knows when it will actually be finished and acceptable to get, so even in 2021 COVID still be a problem. I am also getting married September and unless the governor in my state starts shutting things down again, it’s happening. But I have lowered my guest list substantially and it now consists of immediate friends and family and I have a maximum of 30 people including the bride and groom (technically 15 people but everyone has spouses) coming and we are going to do a large reception (no ceremony) where all of our families can come together and celebrate next summer. I will most likely show the highlight video of our ceremony as a side decorative piece on a TV or protector somewhere of to the side so people can see the day of if they really wish to see what happened the day of. Hopefully by then COVID is not a problem because if it is, the reception next summer won’t happen either but at that point it wouldn’t matter because I would already be married to my best friend and the love of my life and the party doesn’t really matter in the end if you think about it like that. It just depends on what your priorities are and it sounds like you don’t want to wait. So don’t. Go for it.
Edit to also include that safety precautions will be taken at my wedding as well. I have disposable temperature checks at the door, if people would like to wear masks they can, hand sanitizer will be placed around, there are less people sat to a single table, we have wait staff and not buffet, all wait staff and venue employees will be wearing masks. Either way I’m still expecting it to be a great time and don’t think that I would really be losing out in much. We will have dancing and people know that if they think they have been exposed that they will stay home.
Post # 17
We had 2 friends getting married this year, August and October. The August couple is still getting married in August and will have their big celebration in 2021. This couple is alittle older and they probably don’t want to delay having children which is why they are moving forward with their vows. As a guest I totally understand, I’d be really shocked if other’s don’t given the circumstances but people are weird and it is what it is. Those feelings are on them, not you, easier said than done I know but you’ll have to make peace with it.
Our other friends who were getting married in October are alittle younger so they just post poned the whole wedding til 2021.
Depending on your desire to start a family or not and your age, these factors might be helpful in making your choice. I can’t imagine how tough it must be. Planning a wedding is a rollercoaster to begin with, I couldn’t imagine what it would be like now. I really like the idea of a small christian cermoney this year and a big cultural ceremony/reception in 2021. It sounds more fun and less stress to have both in one day/weekend.
Either way, do what is best for you and your fiance! Best of luck bee!
Post # 18
I’m so sorry for you and all the brides who are going through this right now. If you’re fine with waiting until next year, I think that is the best option based on what you want. Since your Fiance mentioned eloping before COVID, I’d be concerned that the 2021 celebration may not happen if you get legally married this year and you seem to really want to have a bigger wedding (nothing wrong with that – it was important to me to be surrounded by our large family and friend group as well!). It seems like he might think there was no point in having a later reception if you’re already married. I would not personally feel comfortable attending a wedding this fall, especially with numbers going up, so the last option is the only one I think is a bad idea. In these circumstances, I would understand the couple eloping and having a delayed celebration and would be happy to attend if my schedule permitted.
Post # 19
I’m sorry you’re going through this too! Who would have thought this would be the most stressful wedding planning ever lol
I think my idea for the small ceremony is pretty in line with yours! I just wanted to have that perfect wedding once time, this year and I’m struggling with relinquishing that idea; but you’re right I get to marry my best friend and that’s the big walk away from it all. It’s also really nice to hear that there are other brides still planning on doing a reception later to celebrate their marriages – it’s seeming to be more of a norm. Thank you for your input!! Wishing you the best for your wedding this September!
Post # 20
Thank you!! I’m finding that other brides are doing kind of a sequel wedding/ceremony as an option more so now. But you also make a good point about how the second go round will hopefully be less stressful and we can try to keep it distinctly separate!
Post # 21
That’s a viewpoint I definitely didn’t consider about him not wanting to do a second ceremony next year. Thank you! I’ll need to double check with him on that before we make a decision, but yes, as romantic as a small wedding is I still want to celebrate and dance with all our friends and family!
Post # 22
I agree intimate ceremony. Reception after all restrictions lifted
Post # 23
Thank you all for your input! We finalized the decision today to postpone our celebration to 2021. Now we just need to let our guests know. Not sure yet on if we’ll elope or have a small ceremony on our original date, but again thanks for the helpful insight!
Post # 24
Sounds like you made a wise choice. Sorry you’ve had to make such a difficult decision :/