(Closed) Serious bridesmaid problem

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What should I do about this bridesmaid dilemma?
    The wedding isn't for a while, try to cut my ties. : (11 votes)
    73 %
    Discuss it with her. : (3 votes)
    20 %
    Allow things to go ahead as planned. : (1 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    458 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Do you honestly think you can put up with her for ANOTHER FIVE YEARS?! Seriously, replace her.

    Post # 5
    Member
    16 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Don’t stress out about bridesmaids just yet. If she is still acting the same way in appox. 5 years, then kick her to the curb. Friendship and bridesmaids sure can change in 5 years…

     

    Post # 6
    Member
    51 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Just had a similar situation. My mom had told me to wait to ask people to be BM’s until closer to the wedding (next oct). I’m so glad. This weekend we had a huge falling out, and while it hurts and its so much easier said than done, I reccommend cutting ties. There was alot of jealousy and bitterness on her part, and I can’t say that I blame her, life’s been throwing her some rough times and I know it would be hard for me to stay positive in that situation, but you don’t need a constantly negative influence in your life. Cut her. We can cry together… haha

    Post # 7
    Member
    1222 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    You have a very long way to go. I seriously would not even worry about it. As Burberry said, people and relationships will change. I would also try to refrain from talking about wedding choices (dresses, venues, etc) around her.

    Whether it was wedding related or not, if it bothers you to discuss the issues she brings up I would kindly tell her to butt out and what happened is in the past and to quit bringing it up. They aren’t her issues to talk about.

    Post # 11
    Member
    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    She has no right to tell you how to handle your relationship. She should feel honored that you considered her a good enough friend to ask her to be a bridesmaid. I would maybe talk to her about the situation and explain how it is hurting you. If she still doesn’t shape up, I would say relieve her of her bridesmaid duties.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1555 posts
    Bumble bee

    Cut your ties. She is going to make the next 4-5 years of your life hell if she keeps going on the way she is. You don’t want that kind of person ruining what is special to you and your Fiance.

    So tell her that she is being a pain and that you are over what has happened and if she can’t get over it then she is out of the wedding. You don’t need any drama from others.

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