Post # 1
UGH. I am so OVER planning this wedding and I need to let it out! Don’t get me wrong, I can’t wait to get married, but at this point I just want to be married and done with it! All of a sudden the small details, what people may judge me for don’t matter, as long as I’m married and happy it’ll all be good. I mean, people aren’t going to seriously say “oh she went with the white plastic chairs instead of the white wooden chairs, how tacky!” are they? Any other bees come down with the “I don’t cares” close to their wedding? Vent with me!
Post # 3
@laurn88: I did too, and in the end, these are the things that don’t matter anyway. What matters is your union to your FI and a long happy life together.
Post # 4
I agree. I had a serious sit-down with myself and thought this all out…why are we so eager to please everyone else? I blame TLC, and the FI has since banned any of those judgey wedding shows in our house (Four Weddings, I’m looking at you here). Sure, people look at your wedding pics for the first couple weeks, but after that it’s old news…and hopefully no one knows someone that would be so rude as to tell them what they didn’t like at their wedding.
Post # 5
I keep coming in and out of the “I don’t cares” for a few days now.
Post # 6
I got like this around the same time before my wedding. I was just done with little details I had wanted to recreate from Style Me Pretty (the bane of my existence).
In the end those small details didn’t matter because I was on Cloud 9 and there was nothing that could bother me that day.
Post # 7
@laurn88: I’m getting married the day before you AND I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND!!! I FEEL THE EXACT SAME WAY!!! LET IT OUT!!
I really feel like I’m going to go nuts. People ask me about the wedding and planning and I just say, “I don’t want to talk about it!”
I just want the day to be here, the stress to be gone and off on our honeymoon!
I totally agree..all those wedding shows I watch are helping create so much stress. Also, the thread on here earlier about what people hated about weddings stressed me out. Now I’m so worried about people hating my wedding. Ugghhh!!
It’s almost here! **HUGS**
Post # 8
I’m there…. I just hate it when people ask me if I’m excited. Like seriously???? I usually give a small smile and say yes. But then I’m told I don’t act like I’m excited…. really?? Excuse me for not acting as surprised as you think I should act for my wedding random person who works in my building…..
I can’t wait to be married…. ready to get the wedding done and over with.
Post # 9
@LD333: I snap out of it every so often but then I’m right back to not caring.
@LuckyJuls: That reaffirms that I’m not being silly by not caring, it’ll be great no matter what 🙂
@ashkat: *hugs* we’re so close! we can make it lol. That thread got to me too, I know people are going to be snide behind my back (I can think of two particular people as a matter of fact) but I figure it’s their problem, I’m not throwing them a party, I’m throwing us a wedding 🙂
@MrsDTMajor: If I get that “are you excited” question one more time I’m going to start saying “no, dreading it, in fact” haha. It’s hard to act excited over spending so much and wondering what people are going to find to complain about!
Post # 10
I went through that very close to my wedding too. it just happens! It’s like, “I’ve just had enough!” The planning can get so tiresome and overwhelming and I remember wanting to throw in the towel more than a few times. There are plenty of moments where it just isn’t that “fairytale” that people(?) the media(?) society(?) make it out to be. Buttttt.. in the end, the wedding was not perfect, but it was my fairytale because my guy was standing at the end of the aisle, so I know I probably don’t have to tell you this, but it WILL all be worth it! 🙂
Post # 11
@laurn88: Oh my gosh!!! I just had a talk with my FI about the rehersal dinner…He said he’s just going to suggest a park to his parents and let them deal with it and then adds they are really picky about things but he doesn’t have time for it.
I’m ready to cry. As awful as it sounds I have no faith in my FILs putting this rehearsal dinner together!! I can’t handle all this stress!!!
Post # 12
my wedding is in almost three weeks (can’t believe it!!!) but I wouldn’t classify how I’m feeling as I don’t care… it’s just that I’m not stressed anymore! it’s great.
finalizing the menu and making our final payments, finishing a few crafts, and then I just have to go to my bachelorette party, my hair trial, and have the wedding.
it’s great to be in a more relaxed place… so maybe that’s all your feeling, chill! The wedding industry complex and those stupid reality TV shows make us feeling like we “should” be acting a certain way… but we don’t!
Post # 13
My wedding is on Saturday. I have last minute planning to do, and I simply do not care. I’m getting emails from the caterer and other vendors. I just feel like I wish I could pass off the final planning to someone else. FI is no help whatsoever. I just feel so done with planning. Enough. I want to get married already! I’m glad I’m not the only one going through feeling this way.
Post # 14
We all seem to be August brides! I am so looking forward to Aug 19th the day after my wedding! It has been ungodly hot here like 100 for 9 days, can’t get anything done, and I don’t care anymore! cancelled my dress fitting for a Thurs because I can’t fake happy this week, maybe next! Why didn’t we elope???
Post # 15
OMG I don’t care mode is what i’m all about! If i’m not getting asked about my check list of to do items, its being asked about things that are ridiculous! Someone seems to constantly have a “critique” about the wedding planning the latest is i opted to do online RSVP and save my 100$ in stamps and avoid people bringing extra guest ….and someone had the nerve to complain to my FMIL about that….booohoo i’m so sorry i didn’t make it easier for you to hijack my guest list…. My mom keeps guilt tripping me about inviting an estranged cousin who will only come to be catty because its no secret we aren’t close…. i’m sorry when did weddings become three ring circuses and a competition? I just want to marry my honey and be left alone already 🙁 i’m so completely over all this ….
Post # 16
I definitely felt that way leading up to my wedding. I good friend shared with me “Those that mind don’t matter and those that matter won’t mind.” That helped me SOO much. Enjoy your wedding!