Post # 1
Hoping to get some helpful real opinions, please!
I bought my dress online and have had it for month now. I am having serious doubts about it (as you can see in the picture I am slumped over with a case of the sads!). I am getting married on the beach and I really don’t think it will be “beachy” enough. I hate, hate, hate my arms in it. I just feel really weird in the dress(but I think that would be any wedding dress, cause they dosen’t feel like me)
My hubby to be has seen it and he loves it, my Mum and Dad lives a distance away and and saw and picture and they loved it. But I am having reaccuring nightmares of walking onto the beach and people laughing at me, I hate people looking at me the best of times.
But I would love some un-biased thoughts on the dress and I wondering if other ladies had my issues but wore the dress anyway and still enjoyed the day. it’s only a month to the wedding and I am starting to panic because there is just no way I can afford to buy another dress. I havent posted on here before, I normally just read the posts but any input would be great!!!
Post # 3
I think it’s a very pretty dress! I would suggest you try having your hair and makeup similar to how you would wear it on the wedding day. When you feel you look good it will always help looking in the mirror/in photos.
Do you feel uncomfortable in the dress at all?
It looks like it fits you but that your shoulders and underarms may be a little tight. Look at slight alterations that may improve the feel of the dress for you, such as new shoulder straps and added tulle across the back? This may also give you the floaty feel beach dresses have.
Believe me nobody would ever laugh at you in this dress, it’s stunning.
Post # 4
I think this is a pretty dress as well. However I o think you should have it altered to a strapless I think the straps are in a bit of an awkward position on your shoulders. Try it with the straps tucked into see how it would look.
Post # 5
@kenty85: First of all, you look goregous! That is a beautiful dress, and definitely “beachy” enough.
I’d recommend doing some arm excercises between now and your wedding. Even if it doesn’t make a huge difference, you will feel better about yourself!. The straps seem to be sitting awkwardly, like if you move your arms they might slip off. You might consider having the straps changed to an off the shoulder look. It will hide your arms which you are feeling self concious about, and would look very romantic and whimsical.
I hope this helps, and don’t worry, you look fantastic!
Post # 6
@kenty85: The dress is lovely and so are you. I agree with the other posters’ reccomendations if you are unhappy with the sleeves. You can have the straps moved or removed, and maybe the top let out. If that’s not an option and you still hate the arms, you could also try adding a shrug, wrap, or dressy sweater of some kind. I think that you can adjust the beautiful dress you have to make yourself perfectly happy in it. Good luck- I know you will be a gorgeous bride no matter what!
Post # 7
I think it’s beautiful for a beach wedding. I love the details at the top and bottom of your dress. when I first went looking for dresses I fell in love with mine. I recentlup just picked it up and tried on the dress again (it was already purchase) my hair was not even done and I had no make up and honestly I didn’t care for how I looked in it. I think once you play around with your hair and make up it will all come together. I personally love the dress I would try to see what it looks like strapless
Post # 8
@kenty85: I agree that the straps are in a awkward position. Are they maybe meant to be hanging down off your shoulders as such…? If that doesn’t look right, I would go strapless.
Post # 9
@mrschmura: +1 off the shoulder straps might look much better!
The straps are quite thick, adding a bit of a bulky effect. Strapless might be the way to go! I know it seems like strapless would draw more attention to your arms, but I actually think the opposite is true:)
Post # 10
I agree with the last post!! I think strapless would take the attention away from your arms if that is a concern of yours but you really do look beautiful in the dress!! It does have a beachy feel!!
Post # 11
@kenty85: get rid of the straps. It would look so much prettr without them.
Post # 12
@kenty85: It’s a very pretty dress! I agree though, try to tuck the sleeves into the top to see what it would look like strapless. If you have a veil or like an arm wrap or something “flowy and breezy – chiffon like” it will catch the breeze and seem more beachy to you!
Post # 13
Your dress is very pretty but I’m a big proponent of brides identifying with their dress. All brides should feel beautiful on their wedding day – not self-conscious. If you dont love it and wont feel comfortable wearing it then, assuming you can afford it, I would advise changing dresses. Something ready to wear because you dont have a lot of time.
On a side note, and not to make you feel more uncomfortable, but the dress seems kind of sheer – it looks as though you can see undergarments and I am concerned in the sun this might be more emphasized than it is with flash photography.
Post # 14
I like your dress, OP. It’s a lovely fit, and looks wonderfully vintage.
But I think the off the shoulder straps would look weird only because the straps follow the detail under the bust. The sleeves appear to hit right at an unflattering point on your shoulders (and this is for most people). You might try making the straps thinner (eliminating the cap sleeve style):
Or move them so they form an “X” in the back:
Or you can add lace to the sleeves so they are a longer cap or more of a short sleeve:
Post # 15
If you’re worried about your arms, try a veil. It will really soften the area and should flow beautifully and help conceal any problem areas. Also, I agree with other bees that changing the position of the sleeves and getting the dress tailored will really make a difference, so try that before giving up on it!
I think you look gorgeous, by the way. 🙂
Post # 16
@Pand0ra: + 1 If you are not confident in your dress, and have serious misgivings about it, I would see if you can change dresses. I’m sure you can find a beautiful, flowy beach-appropriate dress in time for your wedding.
I agree with the others that the way the straps are right now, is not particularly flattering for the arms. Try removing them, or playing around with the placement. I don’t know if removing the straps would work because they are joined to the underbust section.
By the way – if you stick with your dress – definitely look into adding an opaque underlayer toavoid the sheerness that you’re getting in the photos you posted.