Post # 17
Also, are you totally sure you like yourself in a trumpet? I thought I would like it, but I didn’t. But I am a little heavier… Can you try both on somewhere? See the difference? I wanted a trumpet, then the one I bought is supposed to be an A-Line and the way it’s draped made a very trumpet/hourglass sillouette. Just a thought. But you sound set on the trumpet, so I would do it or you always have a horrible feeling in your gut and will keep looking that dress up on the internet and sighing…
Post # 18
I too wanted a lace dress but EVERYBODY wanted me to get something else. I even posted on WB about my dresses. I didn’t try the lace I wanted, I went with an A line because that’s also what folks said I should try. Argghh, in the end, I junked everything and went with my lace and I AM SO HAPPY I DID. I can’t wait for it to come in. I understand where you are coming from. If the A-line is not what you want, please don’t talk yourself INTO getting it. Get what you want. OR, you could keep scouting around, I’m sure that dress could pop up on any site sometime soon especially as we get more into Spring and the wedding season.
Post # 19
I am really drawn to a-line dresses and I didn’t think I would like myself in a trumpet, so I was surprised to see that I actually LOVED how this particular trumpet fit me. I am pretty petite, and the trumpet gave me curves I didn’t really know i had, which I loved. I did like a lot of the a-line dresses I tried on (hence my original purchase) but in the Romona dress there was no question that the trumpet looked 10x better on me than the a-line style.
I have started to adopt that motto as well 🙂 On the one hand, it is just a dress
, but on the other hand, it’s the only wedding dress I ever plan on wearing and I want to love it!
I remember reading your dress post and totally commiserating. i’m happy it worked out for you! My only concern about waiting is… what if it doesn’t show up used, and then I’ve missed out on ordering it new? The what ifs are making me crazy.
Post # 20
I feel for you! I think you should get the one you want. It sounds like you feel silly or impractical spending the money, but not like it will break the bank (eg cause financial problems for you and Fiance down the road). If so, I think this is definitely worth the splurge, and you can probably recoup some of the $$ by selling your first dress.
Post # 21
Well, it looks like you have done your homework. So, who now, are you trying to convince? Sounds to me like you’ve already made your decision! Go with it! You will be happier.
Post # 22
@SerenaSF: Hi there! (*Disclaimer everyone* – I am the seller of the used dress but I promise to be objective 🙂 ) I’m sorry you still feel torn over the decision. Been there done that, so I know how it feels. First I want to say if you found your dream RK for $2900 including tax, that’s a pretty sweet deal and definitely worth considering. I paid almost $3600 for mine with tax, but I guess that was the Beverly Hills price tag. If however you do want to go the other route, did you talk to a seamstress to see what they can do about changing the a-line to the trumpet? In the store I bought my dress, alterations started at $500+ with no modifications, just the regular fitting/hemming, for any dress regardless of fabric. This is a standard charge no matter what dress you buy because it will still need to be fitted on you and probably hemmed. On the other hand I took my problematic Lazaro to an independent seamstress. She worked for weeks on that dress, took the entire thing apart and rebuilt it, and I still spent less than $500. The difference between regular alterations and modification to trumpet may not be all that much, but of course the question is finding a seamstress who can do what you want.
At the end of the day I hope you go with what makes you happy. The L195 was my dream dress, I wanted a fuller skirt but I made that work somehow, and I’m so happy I spent the money. The Bees gave me the sweetest compliments on it yesterday and made me feel like a million bucks: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/which-bee-do-you-have-dress-envy-for. I hope you end up with a dress that makes you feel the same way.
ETA: Did you try a regular sample size 10 in the store? I’d originally tried on the one that came off the runway model and was really fitted in the hips. That makes me think it’s doable, but I don’t know.
Post # 23
You have said you don’t want to spend 3k on the dress. Is “don’t want to” the same as can’t afford to? If you have the room in the budget I would say go for it. It is a lot and it is “just one day”, but it is your wedding day and you’ll only have one of them.
It is really gorgeous and I feel like I would keep comparing everything to the original. That being said both of the other dresses are really nice as well if there isn’t that much room left budget wise.
Post # 24
Go for your dream dress! There is no reason you can’t call or visit local bridal salons who carry the dress to see the different pricing, and you can certainly bargain or negotiate for the dress. Or watch for a trunk show were they will give discounts. Maybe you can find a shop that will give you alterations on your dream dress for free. Where there is a will, there is a way. Get creative and see what you can do to make that dream your reality.
Post # 25
There is some middle ground here. If it’s a matter of the RK breaking the bank, why don’t you try some of the lower-priced stores (David’s, Alfred Angelo) and see if they have a dress very similar to the one you want? It’s a fairly popular style, and while it probably won’t be the same as the more expensive dress, it might be the look you want. It can’t be any further from the RK than the one you have now….
Post # 26
Without reading any comments first, I’ll give you my opinion.
First step: Sell the dress you don’t like. It’s still new and current and if you wait a year, it’s outdated. Sell now, since you already know you don’t like it.
Second step: Keep shopping. There is no reason to go over budget. There will be other dresses you like that you can afford.
Babe, don’t freak. You can and will love your dress. You just haven’t found it yet. 🙂
Post # 27
Thanks everyone for all of the great advice. I am leaning towards spending more and getting the one I really want, the L216. As far as my budget goes, spending more money on the dress is definitely going to make things tight in other areas, and i may have to cut back on certain things, not go out to eat as much, etc., but it’s not going to cause any long term financial problems or anything like that. Also, i have tried on a lot of dresses that are similar but cheaper, and I haven’t liked them at all. I think a lot of my hesitation is that I just can’t believe that i am spending that much on a dress. Before I got engaged i thought that people that spent that much were crazy, and now that might be me!
The even crazier thing is that the wedding industry – specifically watching multiple episodes of “say yes to the dress” – has almost made me feel like 3k is a steal! How do we live in this world?
i figured you would probably see this 🙂 I did try on a regular sample size 10, and it was way too big on me and not fitted on my hips at all, but based on your pictures I’m sure that the correct size would be much more fitted. The L216 was also a sample size 10, but it just fit me better, though probably just because it already had the shape i was going for. i called one seamstress and explained what I wanted to do, and she said that it was possible but would probably be at least $400 because I was changing the structure of the dress. However, she didn’t see any pictures or anything, so she could have been envisioning much more work than it really would entail. I LOVE how the dress looks on you, but when I tried it on it did not look that way on me. It did nothing for my body, I actually felt like it made my waist look bigger
, whereas the L216 really highlighted my small waist and hips. Also, I don’t have your fabulous skin tone (I’m blond and fair skinned) so I think the ivory would be more flattering. Though my friend that was with me didn’t notice any difference, I felt like the white made me look paler than the ivory (granted, I also live in San Francisco and have no tan and expect to be much darker by the time my wedding in Mexico rolls around 🙂 ). As far as cost goes, the L216 is $2900 without tax, but I was able to negotiate 10% off which will keep it under 3k. But if i get it used from you, i will be saving almost 1k, which would be obviously be great. So, basically, I’m still confused!
Post # 28
I think you should buy the L216, only if you are IN LOVE with it. The L195 is also beautiful and very similar, but since you are already having dress regret with one dress, I am afraid that you might have the same regrets, since it still isn’t exactly what you want.
Post # 29
Ha ha! I did the same thing…Buy your dream dress. You will regret it if you don’t…don’t buy a dress and try to make it the right one…Go buy your dream one, sell the other one, take the loss…move on…know on your wedding day you wore your dream dress!
Post # 30
I have the same problem! I feel for you! I didn’t buy any dresses yet, but I am running out of time as my wedding is in just over 4 months and now I will have to make up my mind this week and pay rush fees! I love this dress for $2600, but am wondering if I should risk buying a knock off online, try finding a used one, or getting one similar to it made to look like it? It’s so easy to get wrapped up in finding the perfect dress, but it’s way harder to find than I ever imagined!!
The 1st 3 pics are of the cheaper dress that I would have to get more flared at the bottom to fit more trumpet, but I love the way it looks from the back and the way it sparkles! The 2nd dress is the pricier one but it fits better in the front…
Post # 31
Well, first of all, I think both the dresses look great on you, so it really just comes down to what you feel the best in (and what you feel most comfortable spending). I have loved the Diana for a long time, so I am partial to that, but i also really love the strapless lace dress. My only real advice is do not to buy a knockoff online… I have heard/seen some horrible stories from other brides and it would be awful if you ended up with a dress you hated and didn’t have time to get a different one. I say get one of the two that you posted – you look fabulous in both. And as many other brides have told me earlier in this thread…. get the dress you love, it’s your wedding day and you only live once 🙂