(Closed) Serious dress regret :( Really confused, need advice.

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Also, are you totally sure you like yourself in a trumpet? I thought I would like it, but I didn’t.  But I am a little heavier…  Can you try both on somewhere? See the difference? I wanted a trumpet, then the one I bought is supposed to be an A-Line and the way it’s draped made a very trumpet/hourglass sillouette. Just a thought.  But you sound set on the trumpet, so I would do it or you always have a horrible feeling in your gut and will keep looking that dress up on the internet and sighing…

Post # 18
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2738 posts
Sugar bee

I too wanted a lace dress but EVERYBODY wanted me to get something else. I even posted on WB about my dresses. I didn’t try the lace I wanted, I went with an A line because that’s also what folks said I should try. Argghh, in the end, I junked everything and went with my lace and I AM SO HAPPY I DID. I can’t wait for it to come in. I understand where you are coming from. If the A-line is not what you want, please don’t talk yourself INTO getting it. Get what you want. OR, you could keep scouting around, I’m sure that dress could pop up on any site sometime soon especially as we get more into Spring and the wedding season.

Post # 20
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38 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I feel for you!  I think you should get the one you want.  It sounds like you feel silly or impractical spending the money, but not like it will break the bank (eg cause financial problems for you and Fiance down the road).  If so, I think this is definitely worth the splurge, and you can probably recoup some of the $$ by selling your first dress.

Post # 21
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145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well, it looks like you have done your homework.  So, who now, are you trying to convince? Sounds to me like you’ve already made your decision! Go with it! You will be happier.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@SerenaSF: Hi there! (*Disclaimer everyone* – I am the seller of the used dress but I promise to be objective πŸ™‚ ) I’m sorry you still feel torn over the decision. Been there done that, so I know how it feels. First I want to say if you found your dream RK for $2900 including tax, that’s a pretty sweet deal and definitely worth considering. I paid almost $3600 for mine with tax, but I guess that was the Beverly Hills price tag. If however you do want to go the other route, did you talk to a seamstress to see what they can do about changing the a-line to the trumpet? In the store I bought my dress, alterations started at $500+ with no modifications, just the regular fitting/hemming, for any dress regardless of fabric. This is a standard charge no matter what dress you buy because it will still need to be fitted on you and probably hemmed. On the other hand I took my problematic Lazaro to an independent seamstress. She worked for weeks on that dress, took the entire thing apart and rebuilt it, and I still spent less than $500. The difference between regular alterations and modification to trumpet may not be all that much, but of course the question is finding a seamstress who can do what you want.

At the end of the day I hope you go with what makes you happy. The L195 was my dream dress, I wanted a fuller skirt but I made that work somehow, and I’m so happy I spent the money. The Bees gave me the sweetest compliments on it yesterday and made me feel like a million bucks: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/which-bee-do-you-have-dress-envy-for. I hope you end up with a dress that makes you feel the same way.

ETA: Did you try a regular sample size 10 in the store? I’d originally tried on the one that came off the runway model and was really fitted in the hips. That makes me think it’s doable, but I don’t know.

Post # 23
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602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You have said you don’t want to spend 3k on the dress.  Is “don’t want to” the same as can’t afford to?  If you have the room in the budget I would say go for it.  It is a lot and it is “just one day”,  but it is your wedding day and you’ll only have one of them. 

It is really gorgeous and I feel like I would keep comparing everything to the original.  That being said both of the other dresses are really nice as well if there isn’t that much room left budget wise.

Post # 24
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1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Go for your dream dress!  There is no reason you can’t call or visit local bridal salons who carry the dress to see the different pricing, and you can certainly bargain or negotiate for the dress.  Or watch for a trunk show were they will give discounts.   Maybe you can find a shop that will give you alterations on your dream dress for free.  Where there is a will, there is a way.  Get creative and see what you can do to make that dream your reality.

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

There is some middle ground here. If it’s a matter of the RK breaking the bank, why don’t you try some of the lower-priced stores (David’s, Alfred Angelo) and see if they have a dress very similar to the one you want? It’s a fairly popular style, and while it probably won’t be the same as the more expensive dress, it might be the look you want. It can’t be any further from the RK than the one you have now….

Post # 26
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Newbee

Without reading any comments first, I’ll give you my opinion.

First step: Sell the dress you don’t like. It’s still new and current and if you wait a year, it’s outdated. Sell now, since you already know you don’t like it.

Second step: Keep shopping. There is no reason to go over budget. There will be other dresses you like that you can afford.

Babe, don’t freak. You can and will love your dress. You just haven’t found it yet. πŸ™‚

 

Post # 28
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87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think you should buy the L216, only if you are IN LOVE with it. The L195 is also beautiful and very similar, but since you are already having dress regret with one dress, I am afraid that you might have the same regrets, since it still isn’t exactly what you want. 

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Ha ha! I did the same thing…Buy your dream dress. You will regret it if you don’t…don’t buy a dress and try to make it the right one…Go buy your dream one, sell the other one, take the loss…move on…know on your wedding day you wore your dream dress!

Post # 30
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have the same problem! I feel for you! I didn’t buy any dresses yet, but I am running out of time as my wedding is in just over 4 months and now I will have to make up my mind this week and pay rush fees! I  love this dress for $2600, but am wondering if I should risk buying a knock off online, try finding a used one, or getting one similar to it made to look like it? It’s so easy to get wrapped up in finding the perfect dress, but it’s way harder to find than I ever imagined!!

The 1st 3 pics are of the cheaper dress that I would have to get more flared at the bottom to fit more trumpet, but I love the way it looks from the back and the way it sparkles! The 2nd dress is the pricier one but it fits better in the front…

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