(Closed) Serious Flower girl problem! HELP!

posted 13 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I just saw my two and a half year old niece last night and my family said she was even too young to count on her walking down the aisle.  At that age, be prepared for all of them to freak out and not go. 

If you can’t do the wagon, then you should have all of their mothers prepared to walk/carry them down the aisle.  And then be ok if even that doesn’t happen if one of them is too scared.  Even the most outgoing child can be intimidated in this situation!!

Post # 4
35 posts

I think that you might need to just reconcile yourself to the fact that she may or may not toddle down the aisle.  But here are some suggestions to up the odds that she will make:

  • Plant Mom at one end of the aisle and Dad at the other.
  • Give someone at the end of the aisle a lollipop or something else to coax her in that direction.
  • Tell her she is playing follow the leader and ask her to follow the flower girl in front of her (she may still be a bit young for this)
  • Ask the other two girls to carry the baskets in one hand and use the other hand to hold the little one by the hand
  • Plant people at various points down the aisle to encourage her to keep going

Good Luck!  I am sure that no matter what happens you will get great photos! 

Post # 5
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

My flower girl, who is also my daughter, is three years old.  I’m a little worried about her clinging to me and not walking down the ailse.  Her sister who is 18, will encourge her to go.  If that doesn’t work, she will offer to hold her hand and go together.  If that doesn’t work, the older girl will just walk down alone.  If a loud crying fit breaks out, I have her babysitter there and she is instructed to wisk her away.

 I am hoping that even though she may not walk down the aisle perfectly, that no crying fits ensue.  Other than that, almost anything she does will probably be really cute.

Just be ready to accept that it may not go perfectly, and those little flower girls doing funny things is often what steals the show!!!

And I like the idea of mom and dad at the front of the row, but maybe one of them should stay behind in case she needs to be taken away.

 Good luck and keep your fingers crossed!  I know I am.


Post # 6
402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

you’re blessed that you have 2 other flowergirls in this situation….

all of Candi1024 suggestions are great. could you have someone carry her down the aisle? someone she knows?

hope for the best but prepare for worse…..i think thats all that really can be done here.

Post # 7
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

I agree with the last two posts. If your youngest flower girl is in a good mood that day and not tired, uncooperative or cantankerous, then all will go well. Kids are very unpredictable and will only do what they want to do. You have to know that when you include them in your wedding. My aisle runner (he’s 5) fell asleep before I could come down the aisle! But, we kept it moving! I think it’s good that you have two other FG’s just in case your youngest isn’t quite ready to go down the aisle. Try not to worry about it too much.

Post # 8
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2021

One of my bridemaids carried my 1-year old flower girl down the aisle to avoid any potential issues, and handed her off to her parents when they go to the front.  We just made sure she was the last Bridesmaid or Best Man to go down the aisle before the kids and it was perfectly cute that she didn’t walk by herself.

I’m assuming you say that the other girls can’t help the little one due to the baskets because you want them to throw petals from the baskets.  If you really want the visual of all 3 girls walking down the aisle, then let the older two just hold their basket on one arm, and sprinkle petals on the aisle ahead of time.  That way, they each have a free hand to help the little one.

But be very prepared for any one of them to freak out and have a plan B ready.  It’s entirely different when you’re practicing at the rehearsal, and then at the wedding, they see the 200 people staring back at them.  That scares adults, let alone little kids.  Good luck and be flexible, it’ll all turn out beautifully and everyone will be more interested in seeing the beautiful bride!

Post # 9
30 posts
  • Wedding: June 2008

I saw a show once (Whose Wedding Is It Anyway, I think) where the bride and groom’s son was wheeled down the aisle in an umbrella stroller that the florist decorated with flowers and ribbon.  That may be an alternative to the wagon that your church can approve.

Post # 10
30 posts
  • Wedding: June 2008

I saw a show once (Whose Wedding Is It Anyway, I think) where the bride and groom’s son was wheeled down the aisle in an umbrella stroller that the florist decorated with flowers and ribbon.  That may be an alternative to the wagon that your church can approve.

Post # 11
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2007

My flower girl was 3 & her mom (who was also one of my BM’s) walked her down (she had stage fright) and then she ended up sitting with her dad. 

Post # 12
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I agree that the 4-yr old is probably the only one you can count on – the 3-yr old may be persuaded to ‘follow the leader’ with the 4-yr old.  They are both really too young to also be in charge of the 11-month old, who is really, really too young to be counted on to do anything.  I would actually recommend going with the 3 and 4 yr olds, and having the younger girl just in the photos, and otherwise allowed to be a guest.

You should also remember that the older two girls are probably going to need to sit down after they manage to get up the aisle.  If their parents are in one of the front pews, they can just go to them when the congregation sits down.  They are not likely to make it through the service standing – mostly because they just don’t really understand what’s going on, and will be really bored by the service but really excited by the large group of people.

Post # 13
2 posts

 Just a heads up:

That older child could potentially drag the child down the aisle.  They dont walk at the same pace and that puts alot of pressure on the children.  We did a fashion show recently and attempted to put a 4 year old holding hands with a 7 year old.  It was not a pretty site. 

I love the other suggestions of a decorated baby carriage!

I also  had a 13 month old in my wedding. I had my last maid carry her down the aisle.  She taught her to blow kissed at the rehearsal the night before. It was quite sweet!  She then handed her off to a grandparent.  Goodluck!


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