- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
Cliff Notes: FI got a call from his mother last night because according to her, FI’s sister, neice and Grandmother are boycotting our wedding. What’s their reasoning? They don’t get to invite who they want. What can I do, if anything?
Full Version: Not that this matters to us, but it is the core of our issue’s with FI’s family – I’m white and Fiance is black. FI’s family has never been very involved in his life except for his mother. When I asked Fiance who he wanted to invite to our wedding, he ONLY wanted to invite his mom, grandma, sister, neice, and one uncle to his wedding. He says everyone else in his family does not deserve to be there and he does not WANT them there. Fine by me – completely his choice.
Now his grandmother is throwing an ABSOLUTE fit because she says there will only be 5 black people at the wedding and she needs to invite all her family and friends so she is not alone. Fiance told her absolutely not – it’s his wedding and his choice. Now she has gotten FI’s sister, niece (Our freaking FLOWER girl) and uncle to boycott our wedding since she doesn’t get to invite who she wants.
I would tell Fiance to suck it up and invite his whole family but he has been truly hurt and damaged by things his family has done in the past and he can’t bare the thought of them being around on such a happy day. Not to mention, his family isn’t contributing anything to the wedding so technically they don’t get a say-so in who comes.
Fiance is so upset right now because his mother will now be his only family member at our wedding. He also is absolutely in love with his neice (as am I) and can’t believe FI’s sister would pull her out of the wedding for such petty reasoning. I am absolutely FURIOUS with his grandmother and sister. Is it appropriate for me to have a talk with them?