(Closed) Serious problems between FH and FIL'S, unsure of what to do.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I had a slightly similar issue with my own brother – we did not want to invite him due to current addiction issues plus unmedicated psychological disorder. My mother would have never considered attending a function if he was not invited…. So after a lot of thought, I told my entire side of the family except my beloved sister that we were eloping. My sister and her family came, we had an amazing and perfect day, I don’t regret my choice for even one millisecond. It’s too late for you to do that, I know, but you will never regret inviting ONLY those you love and cherish. I am so sorry Future In-Laws have put you in such an awful situation. Higs!!!

Post # 4
749 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m sorry that you are going through this. We had a similar situation with DHs older brother, and as such, he was not invited to the wedding. The Mother-In-Law threw a fit and tried to guilt Darling Husband into inviting him, but we held our ground and the ILs got over it because we told them that they could get over it or not come. The didn’t even cause that much drama at the wedding! I hope that your ILs come around! Don’t let them bully you into anything!

Post # 6
2753 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Peacockfeather:  ((Hugs)) Sorry that this is an ongoing saga. I remember the first time you posted about it. His family is totally batshit crazy, and I’m really impressed by your FI’s ability to rise above this recent crapstorm. If family members are reaching either of you through Facebook, I say block them or even flat out unfriend them after a polite but firm note telling them you have made up your minds about this decision and no longer wish to hear about it. He should also consider totally cutting off all communication for a week or two just to hammer the point home. That’s severe and could honestly backfire, but it might be necessary. I’ve done that to my family before, and they finally realized how serious I was about the issue. Good luck to the both of you and keep fighting the good fight!


Post # 7
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Peacockfeather:  Stick to your guns, neither one of you want him there and he’s obviously a trouble maker. It’s understandable why his parents are havuing a hard time grasping this, but don’t let them guilt you into anything.

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