Serious question for all bees, were you ready to have your baby?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
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1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I was definitely not ready when I got pregnant. I was in a bad relationship at the time. I left him when my Dear Daughter was 6 months old. Without her, I don’t think I ever would have had the strength or courage.

After I left, I started going back to school and I am so thankful every day that I had her when I did. I wasn’t ready at the time, but looking back, I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am no preggos yet, but wish i was.  I’ve been married for 8 months and just started to ttc.  Before we started thou i was not physically, mentally, emotionally or financially ready at all….my hubby and i wanted to pay off some debt, travel some more and now we are ready to welcome a baby, when it happens.  Everyone is different.  Don’t feel bad that some people that are married less time are already ttc.  My boss and his wife were married for 10 years before they dedided to start having kids.  GL and best wishes 🙂

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2005

I got married at the age of 25 and I had no desire to have a child until I was about 30.  My thought was, we’ll try for it, if it happens YAY if not…I’ll have a lot of puppies or adopt, I was up in the air on that.  Turned out it only took 4-5 months to actually conceive.  The one thing I knew for sure is that I didn’t want to have a baby until we were good and ready.  You’ll never really be ready financially but mentally is key for sure.

Post # 20
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51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I got pregnant on my wedding night.  I planned it, but I did not plan on it happening so soon.

Post # 21
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436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Honestly, before we got married, and for about three months after, I had no intentions on EVER having children. But almost overnight, I just knew it was something that I had to do. I can’t even explain it–and now that we’re TTC, my body just wants to be pregnant. It sounds crazy, but it’s an indescribable feeling! I also have this new-found love for my husband that is almost magical.

Post # 22
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We were orginally going to start  TTC straight after our wedding but Darling Husband said he wasnt quite ready so we waited.  (whch was very hard for me!)

Its a good thing we waited until we were both ready as we were expecting it to take 6 months to a year but got pregnant the second cycle of trying!

Post # 23
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

We got pregnant about 6 weeks after we got married and it was not planned. We knew the risk we were taking so we weren’t exactly shocked… nature works… but we were definitely not “ready.” The baby comes in about 2.5 weeks and I still don’t know if we’re ready. I mean, parenthood is impossible to truly be ready and prepared for no matter how much you try. 9 months is plenty of time to get the basics under control. I read a few books, we took the classes, we’ve listened to friends and family. Keeping the baby and facing this challenge head-on was the right decision for us, though it has not been easy and I’m sure we’re only in for more.

I’m 29, Darling Husband is 32. (I was 28 when we got pregnant.) We probably would’ve waited another 2 years before trying if we had had the luxury to do so, but really that would’ve been for financial and employment reasons, not personal ones. I was finishing my PhD with no full-time job prospects when we found out and so now we are going into this with a very meager income for our area and the kind of lifestyle we are used to (which is not elaborate… but you know, I like to be able to go to Moes or Panera once a week and to not worry about whether I will overdraft buying gas).

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We plan on trying probably within the year we get married.  I’m 27 now and he’s 28 we’ll be getting married in 2014 and i’ll be 28 and he’ll be 29.  I don’t want to wait too much longer after that since i’ll be in my thirties trying for baby #2.  I think we’re a little different though, when we get married we’ll have been together for 11 years at that point.  We’ve kinda did the alone together enjoying just “us” time for a while. 

If we happen to get pregnant right now, we both would be ready mentally but just not exactly where we want to be finanically.   Before we bring a child into a home I would rather have purchased a forever home instead of living in an apt.  I want my Fiance to be settled in his career since i most likely wouldnt work after the baby.

Post # 25
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4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Not pregnant yet, but planning it, so essentially we will be ready when it happens. The only thing that would deter us is finances since my husband just started in a new career field. However seeing as we have about 7-8 months before TTC at the end of this summer I am sure my husband will be seeing success in that time. 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m 30 and Darling Husband is 28. We started trying right after the wedding because we both felt ready to be parents/have kids. We got pregnant very quickly. We have a house, but we have debt from the wedding and credit cards still. Even so, Darling Husband makes very good money, so I will be able to be a Stay-At-Home Mom. He does want to promote at work, but that’s years away. He will get a raise after the baby is born. We are remodling our house and landscaping. I’m on disability do to uncontrolled epilepsy. There’s tons of things financially and health-wise that could have made us wait to have children. We decided that there will never be a ‘right’ time, so we decided to start trying right away. I’m so happy that we did. We also want a large family, so we wanted to get started on that 😉

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