(Closed) serious question for all!!

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m not sure what you want me to say, but it’s the one dress that you’re going to wear on the one day where all eyes will be on you and you marry the one man of your dreams and the pictures will be there forever. 

BUT.. don’t freak out about deciding BETWEEN dresses – because ultimately, no one else is going to know what the other options were AND everyone has different taste, so you won’t ever be able to please all of the people all of the time.

pick a dress that is flattering and that you think is pretty and you feel confident in.  that’s the best option 🙂

Post # 4
1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Kelsikay:  totally not as important as it’s made out to be. fine one you like and stop making yourself crazy.

Post # 5
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Encore Bride here…

Ok here is my way of thinking.

One’s Wedding Gown is typically the most beautiful / elaborate / expensive dress / gown that one will ever wear.

That directly makes it a VERY important decision / purchase

PLUS the fact that women want to look stunning in it… both for their future Hubby as they make this lifelong commitment…

But also because it typically happens in front a group of other people… and so you are the centre of attention.

I know the first time I was married, THE DRESS was a big thing for me for sure.

And I have great memories… it is true what they say… You FALL IN LOVE with your Dress when you find the right one / one meant to be

That said,

This time round…

Altho the Dress was still an important element on my Wedding Day… it wasn’t nearly as big a deal as my first wedding

Probably because:

* I’d already done that

* Didn’t want to spend crazy money again

* My second Wedding was way more casual (Elopment / Beach Wedding)

So I bought a nice gown, and I looked great, and Mr TTR was pleased with how I looked.  And I was happy that it was more than something I’d buy / wear in my normal day-to-day, but I didn’t go over the top with it.

Hope this helps,


Post # 6
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

PS… Agree with the others.  The Dress isn’t the BE ALL TO END ALL at the Wedding (getting married is)

Maybe if you gave us more info about where you are in the process that might be helpful.

(Don’t like the idea that you are going crazy thinking about this all)


Post # 7
1522 posts
Bumble bee

have u ever seen My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding and yes it is extremely ovr the top but the dresses r a reflection of who YOU are and ur style and personality, it is supposedly the best u will ever look (supposedly) so yea that’s why it’s soooo important

Post # 8
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Kelsikay:  I have actually asked myself this question many times. I personally love dresses and feeling ultra femme, so I was most excited to get this supposedly most important dress of your life. After getting it I had terrible dress regret and asked myself that exact question to which I replied, “Whatever. The dress showcases me, not it. I want to be a bride with a handsome man, not just a bride in a stunning dress.” Now I’m more on the line of loving my dress, but loving the fact I am marrying my soul mate in it much more! 


I feel as though society makes us feel like a fantastic wedding gown is what is expected of us. Honestly, I would get married a million times to wear a different wedding gown every time, but I can’t. Now I am rambling. lol 



Post # 9
1299 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think I have more respect for my dress now that I look at the wedding pics so far, more so than when I did before I got married.  I never had the “Say yes to the dress” moment where I broke down in tears.  I saw it in a magazine, went in, tried it on, said yeah this is it, and that was it.  I lost my mom when I was 16.  That being said.. i didnt cry when I got my first fitting, or when I found my dress, or when the wedding day came.  (Im a sap about everything else and did not shed one tear on my wedding day because I was just so happy).  Yes it is just a dress at the end of it all, but when you feel good about yourself it shows.  And I did feel very beautiful all put together on my wedding day.  And I kept saying that it was the most expensive I would ever be dressed in my entire life too… with the dress, veil, shoes, e ring and band, and my moms set too lol.  I guess, before I got married… it was just a dress.  But after I got married… and I look back at the pics, it was a moment in time, one where for me, I felt truly beautiful and happy.  And that’s what it should be about.  It’s one component in the day that should be the happiest so far.  Get a dress you love and feel great in and you can’t go wrong!

Post # 10
4476 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think because “bridal beauty” is a thing we’ve decided to make a big deal out of, and the dress is integral to that.  We want to look the best on our wedding day because it’s a significant moment that will be photographed, remembered, and looked back on.  We want to idealize as much of it as possible.

Post # 11
2634 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Kelsikay:  it’s not that important…but I think deep down inside we all want to spoil and indulge ourselves at least once. unless you are a celebrity that wears pricey dresses for every premiere you never really have the chance again to wear a fancy dress. 

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