- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
As far as marriage goes..we are 9 months in and so far so good! We didn’t live together before marriage, but it seriously wasn’t difficult at all. I also don’t understand when people say the first year of marriage is the hardest..if that is the case, DH and I are pretty set for the rest of it because it’s been EASY!
chances are it won’t matter and your Brother-In-Law and SIL will be fine. But technically they committed tax fraud and if they ever get audited theyll probably owe some money back…
Our marriage didn’t change anything about our relationship at all apart from the fact that I can refer to him as ”my husband” instead of ”my boyfriend”, and the fact that we made the committment not only to each other but in front of all our friends and family.
We’ve been together 10 years and we’re getting married in June. We’ve also lived together for the majority of our relationship.
We’ve seen long term couples get married then divorce quickly but we’ve also seen the happy ones that are still going strong years later. Just as we’ve seen both sides of the coin for couples getting married quickly. I think it’s alot to do with ‘expectations’…marriage isn’t some sort of magic glue, if there are problems there already then marriage won’t suddenly fix them. I think some people turn around 6 months after the wedding and think ‘oh, nothings changed’ and then split up when really it was on its way out long before they got married!
We are the opposite as we really don’t want anything to change. We are very happy as we are and we’ve been very open with each other about why we want to get married after this length of time. We are getting married purely because we want to: not because we think we should or because we want kids or because it might be better financially or because other people tell us to…
It’s a couple of weeks shy of 6 months of marriage for me, and it’s better than I expected. We’ve been together for 9 years, and I thought our relationship was already great. I was expecting more of the same. I didn’t expect to have a whole newlywed bliss phase, but we’re in one, so that’s good.
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