Post # 1
Ladies, I need some advice on what to do: (slightly long)
A couple of weeks ago I was looking at engagement rings online – just flipping through some pictures on a website; you know how it goes :). I don’t remember why, but I was interrupted and had to step out for about 30 min. I accidentally left my laptop open with a random ring on the screen (this was not premeditated in any way and the ring, as fate would have it, was one I happened to seriously dislike). Generally, this wouldn’t bother me in the slightest and, at the time, I didn’t even give it another thought.
Fast forward to this morning: Usually, when I need to save information for later use, I will save info and/or links in an email draft. This morning, I get to the computer and open up an unnamed draft, thinking it’s the one I made of links to houses that interested me. Imagine my shock when appearing before me, in all it’s glory, is the picture of that ring that I had up on my screen a couple of weeks previous and seriously disliked. So, I promptly realize that:
1. I’m in SO’s email (ooops…)
2. He may have thought that I left the laptop open to “hint” to that particular ring and, unfortunately, he took the hint!
I seriously don’t know what to do now. I really… REALLY… don’t like that ring, it’s not my style at all and, as bratty as it sounds, I would be really upset to get somethng like that. I want to let him know that that’s not at all what I want but, it would seem like I was snooping, when i made an honest mistake (possibly fueled by a lack of coffee this morning). Any suggestions on how to handle this… delicately?
Thanks guys! Your help is always appreciated!
Post # 3
How did you mistake his email for yours? I’m not quite understanding that part.
As for the dilemma, just be honest. Say “I know you saw a ring picture I was looking at, but that’s not my style.” Unless you think he already bought it of course?
Oh, I get it now after reading the other comments. He saved the link. I still say honesty is best.
Post # 4
I think you should just bring up getting engaged/rings and tell him the style you like and/or send him a link to a ring you do like in casual conversation. If he hasn’t bought it yet then it should be fine.
Or if you want to be sneaky (which I don’t reccomend doing, honesty is the best policy) then just replace the link to the ring you don’t like with one you do… If he hasn’t bought it yet then he’ll open the email for a reminder and get the right idea. 😉 This could backfire if he already bought it or doesn’t check the email again though, so talking about it is the best choice.
Post # 5
I think you guys need separate computers more than a ring. 😀 (j/k)
Just tell him. (Seriously, it should not be a big deal to say “You left your email logged in and I saw you’d saved a link to that ring I was looking at. I didn’t leave that picture up as a hint or anything. I really hate that ring. Just in case you saved that link for a reason.”)
He might’ve saved it because he thought you liked it. He might’ve just saved it because it was the page you were looking at and he didn’t want to close the browser and lose your spot.
Post # 6
@Elvis: totally agree with this.
Post # 7
Save a different ring in it’s place? Like, bring up a ring you REALLY want and save a copy of that ring’s picture in the message, deleting the old one?
Post # 8
@Elvis: The funny part is that we have 5 computers between us in the house at this time (and that’s not counting smart phones/ipads/ipods, etc. SO is a computer guy…). I just happened to use SO’s desktop bcs it was the one that was on!
Anyway, thanks ladies, I think I’ll just fess up to SO once he wakes up (after all, it was an honest mistake) and have a chat with him.
Post # 9
I always end up in FI’s email since we share a computer. I know you weren’t purposely snooping 🙂 I think talking to him is best too.
Let us know what he says!
Post # 10
yeah thats what i’d do….lol
Post # 11
So, I just wanted to update all of you lovely ladies. 🙂
We randomly started talking about rings in general (not engagement rings…) and I, very smoothly, worked it into our conversation that i accidentally saw the picture. He confessed that he did see it on my screen a few weeks before, and though he was surprised that a. I would “hint” to him instead of flat out tell him what I like (I’m not a hint-type person :)) and b. I would like a ring like that, he, nevertheless, saved it for future reference.
Long story short I set him straight and replaced the one link with like 20 of rings I ACTUALLY like!
Post # 12
I’m so glad to read your update! What a happy ending to this story. And too cute that he knew you so well that he was SURPRISED that you liked that one! hehe. Can’t wait to see pics of the real deal when the time is right 🙂
Post # 13
So glad it worked out! It could have been a sticky situation.
Post # 14
hahaha caught! We also share a laptop, and my now Fiance would catch me looking constantly. I did the same thing and left it open on my computer and he saw it and told me I wasn’t very subtle…OOPS!
Glad you worked it out!
Post # 15
@RinaRoo: I think you should just bring up a ring convo, and start showing him pics. Pull up rings you love so he gets an idea. Then, just happen to pull up the picture of the ring you hate that he happened to save. Tell him that is an example of what you really don’t like.