Post # 1
Getting married on Friday and I was doing AWESOME! Then my Mom and Grandmother came into town and are driving me nutso! (mostly Nana)
The second I hug my Nana she starts getting on to me because we dont have a CAKE. We decided on a dessert bar (FI and I dont care for cake). So shes pissed. Shes pissed I’m not getting married in a church. Shes pissed i’m not doing a lot of the typical wedding tradtions! Seriously, if you were so pissed WHY on Gods green earth did you travel from Florida to West Texas just to B***h at me about everything i’m doing?! You couldnt have voiced all this before? You decide to wait till 2 days out…..
Too late to cancel? lol
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle
Meh, let her yap. Come Saturday, none of it will matter. Even if she voiced all her nonsense before, would you have changed all that just for her?!
Post # 3
rubyrane: dealing with that from my parents. It’ll pass and they’ll be sooo happy on your wedding day to even think about anything wrong.
Post # 4
If she isn’t paying for your wedding, then she doesn’t get a say. I would just smile sweetly and say “Nana, I love you but you already had your wedding. This is my wedding and I’m truly happy, I would hope that you love and respect me enough to support my decisions regarding my special day.” End of discussion, don’t tolerate further conversations about it.
Post # 5
She is old. Old people like to grip. Not sure why but I’m convinced that old people thing they ave no rules. I try and ignore most of the unkind things said. I try to follow the negativity with a positive comment. Like how wonderful the day is. Change the subject. You only have a few day so don’t let old comments get to you. I keep looking at my ring for comfort.
Post # 6
deep breath.. Look at end of the day it’s your wedding!!! It’s what makes the two of you happy- doing it the way you imagined, what fits with who yall are as a couple. I know in the south for sure older family definitely feel they have a right to voice their opinions,& we kinda are taught to politely smile & not really say much. ( that would be disrespectful & no good southern girl would dare speak back to her elders!) sometimes you gotta just grin & bare it.. I don’t think they’re even aware they’re being rude! But you know they are set in their ways & can’t fathom doing things differently. I went through this a lot with my Mawmaw & my mom.. Every now and then I had to put my foot down and just flat out be like ” this is how I want it and that’s it!”
I’m sure she is beyond thrilled to be there,& to see you get married!!! It’s just that she’s probably dreamed about seeing her baby girl/daughter/grand daughter get married and be a bride just as much as you have if not more. It may be hard to except it’s not going to happen the way they maybe imagined every detail happening.. But they will be happy none the less!! Don’t be so hard on them- they’re “old” , they can’t help themselves! Lol
relax and try to enjoy & soak in this memorable time !!! Good luck
Post # 7
mimigirl7: I second that!! I use to tell my Mawmaw allllll the time- ” you think cause your old rules don’t apply to you!” Lol and we’d have a good laugh about it! God I miss her!!! But yeah , they just feel they have been on this earth long enough they can do & say as they please!
Post # 8
deep breathes. heres the thing your nana may be pissy but you are having the wedding of your dreams. congrats on that!