Post # 1
I’m so over the drama with my adopted children birth mom. We have had them for 7 years and they were taken away from her not once but twice for abuse that she was allowing by her many boyfriends. A few years back she created a fake facebook profile for our now 15 year old special needs daughter and was communicating with her bio dad which is NOT allowed to have any contact with her do to past sexual abuse. We reported her and it got deleted. She still has supervised visits threw the state once a week. Every so often I look on facebook to make sure she hasn’t done it again and to my horor last night I find she’s back at it again! Like seriously what is wrong with you. I reported it again and made this my status “What kind of person makes a facebook profile pretending to be their teenage daughter? Someone with some seious mental issues” Not totally mature but I’m seriously frustrated and we are not facebook friends. Now to this morning I woke up to a email from her. I’m not sure how she even saw my profile but she has wiggled and found ways to in the past. This is her email:
Im going to show the caseworker about what you said about me because i know that you are talking about me , i did make a facebook profile as my daugther because i was look up someone and i did delete it and i just think you need to stop talking about people and i did cope this to and what you wrote on your wall because my friend do it for me. if you have problem dont talk shit on facebook
And then this one right after
plus christina can have a facebook this year because she is going to be 16, when she come over she can get on there at are new house. plus im getting married in october and we are going to fight to get the kids back . the dcfs said im doing really will and i have all satisfactoryon my progress so im going to fight that in court in june and im going to try to get a court before that.
Ok first off when she found out Darling Husband and I were getting married she all of a sutdden was engaged and getting married the same month we did well November came and went and hey guess what she still isn’t married. Also she has NO chance of getting the kids back and has been told that multiple times. She is also not even invited to the court dates anymore. I’m just annoyed at her crazy and I know I can’t respond so I had to vent to my nesting bees.
Post # 3
You should definitely report her for doing it again, but I dont think it was necessary for you to put up the status about her.
Post # 4
Wow – sorry you have to deal with such craziness. At least she is sending you all the messages via e-mail so you are able to save a copy for proof if it is ever needed.
Post # 5
Haven’t you maybe learned through dealing with her for so long that perhaps it’s not the best idea to taunt a person with obvious mental issues?
Post # 6
I wouls still report it so it is in her case file. She obviusly is not mature/intelligent enough to understand the severity of the situation. You honestly deserve angel wings for putting up with her BS.
Post # 7
While it wasn’t a good idea to post that, you didn’t post her name, so as long as you didn’t do it again, they would probably ignore it. If its a problem, show the e-mail she sent saying that she did indeed make the profile.
I hate that people have children and then neglect them. As a Teacher I see it so often. These kids want to be loved but all they get is abused. Abused by the random boyfriends and abused by the mother because she puts the boyfriend ahead of her children. And what’s worse is it probably happened to the mother so its a cycle.
Just try not to fall into her drama. Those kids deserve a nice loving stable home.
Post # 8
I didnt post her name and like I said not the most mature status but it gets so old dealing with this crap over and over again.
Post # 9
Eh, it wasn’t a great idea to post that status but it wasn’t THAT nasty, and I would probably be pretty fed up by that point too. No one’s perfect.
I can’t even tell what those emails were supposed to say in the first place… she must be so annoying to deal with. I highly recommend you block her on facebook or delete your profile so you don’t communicate with her any more than you already have to, and you won’t be tempted to look at her activity. Take a deep breath and a warm bath and rise above this!
Post # 10
You need to leave issues with her, and those children out of the public eye. That behaivor doesn’t make it any easier for those children. I’m sure she is then passing on the negativity to those children when she sees them.
Deal with the case workers. Let them know what’s going on. That’s in everyone’s best interest.
Post # 11
Wow, she sounds like a real winner. That must be extremely stressful to deal with. I agree, ignore her as much as possible (beyond checking to make sure she’s not contacting your daughter) and report every violation. Good luck.
Post # 12
@mwitter80: Obviously I do and I do not talk to anyone really about her so no one even knew what I was talking about I got alot of ? comments and deleted the post today. So no I don’t air our dirty laundry via facebook.
Post # 13
@MarryMeTiffany: She knew it was about her, is my point. Therefore, communicating her feelings back to the children.
Facebook is the route of all evil. I truly believe that.
Post # 14
If you have adopted this child then why is the birth mom still getting visitiation at all?
Post # 15
If you don’t want to deal with drama, don’t post a dramatic post on facebook. Think about your daughter in this situation and just try to do what’s best for her. That includes ignoring her birth mother if she tries to stir things up with you.
Post # 16
To be completely honest I would reconsider copy and pasting someone’s email to a very public message board like this, especially with such a sensitive situation.
Also, keep this shit off facebook. Other people do not need to get involved in this, and your kids deserve their privacy regardless of how old they are.
Good luck to you, however. I’m confused as to how she can even get the kids back after you’ve adopted them – unless you’re fostering? I dont know the ins and outs, obviously.