(Closed) Seriously about to snap on my Adopted childrens birth mom

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You should definitely report her for doing it again, but I dont think it was necessary for you to put up the status about her.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Wow – sorry you have to deal with such craziness.  At least she is sending you all the messages via e-mail so you are able to save a copy for proof if it is ever needed.

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Haven’t you maybe learned through dealing with her for so long that perhaps it’s not the best idea to taunt a person with obvious mental issues?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I wouls still report it so it is in her case file. She obviusly is not mature/intelligent enough to understand the severity of the situation. You honestly deserve angel wings for putting up with her BS.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

While it wasn’t a good idea to post that, you didn’t post her name, so as long as you didn’t do it again, they would probably ignore it. If its a problem, show the e-mail she sent saying that she did indeed make the profile.

I hate that people have children and then neglect them. As a Teacher I see it so often. These kids want to be loved but all they get is abused. Abused by the random boyfriends and abused by the mother because she puts the boyfriend ahead of her children. And what’s worse is it probably happened to the mother so its a cycle.

Just try not to fall into her drama. Those kids deserve a nice loving  stable home.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Eh, it wasn’t a great idea to post that status but it wasn’t THAT nasty, and I would probably be pretty fed up by that point too. No one’s perfect.

I can’t even tell what those emails were supposed to say in the first place… she must be so annoying to deal with. I highly recommend you block her on facebook or delete your profile so you don’t communicate with her any more than you already have to, and you won’t be tempted to look at her activity. Take a deep breath and a warm bath and rise above this!

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

You need to leave issues with her, and those children out of the public eye. That behaivor doesn’t make it any easier for those children. I’m sure she is then passing on the negativity to those children when she sees them.

Deal with the case workers. Let them know what’s going on. That’s in everyone’s best interest.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

Wow, she sounds like a real winner.  That must be extremely stressful to deal with.  I agree, ignore her as much as possible (beyond checking to make sure she’s not contacting your daughter) and report every violation.  Good luck.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@MarryMeTiffany: She knew it was about her, is my point. Therefore, communicating her feelings back to the children. 

Facebook is the route of all evil. I truly believe that. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If you have adopted this child then why is the birth mom still getting visitiation at all? 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

If you don’t want to deal with drama, don’t post a dramatic post on facebook. Think about your daughter in this situation and just try to do what’s best for her. That includes ignoring her birth mother if she tries to stir things up with you.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

To be completely honest I would reconsider copy and pasting someone’s email to a very public message board like this, especially with such a sensitive situation.  

Also, keep this shit off facebook.  Other people do not need to get involved in this, and your kids deserve their privacy regardless of how old they are.

Good luck to you, however.  I’m confused as to how she can even get the kids back after you’ve adopted them – unless you’re fostering?  I dont know the ins and outs, obviously.

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