- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2008
Okay, about 2 weeks ago I sent out a VERY detailed e-mail to my bridesmaids, short, sweet and informative on the date, time and such of buying their dresses.
I explained price, payment options, and that they all HAD to be there because they dresses needed to be ordered on the same day otherwise they will be different dye lots, blah blah blah…(I also booked it 6 weeks out so as to give everyone time!!! Not to mention they all knew it would be a Saturday in January – it was set that way since the day they were asked to be in the wedding)
Well today there’s still no response from any of them, I pop them a new e-mail asking if they can make it and my sister (who knew about this for 2 weeks, aside from the e-mail we had talked about it) and now she wants to go to Madison for a friends kids birthday party.
I whipped out Brde-zilla faster then you could say "Hand beaded wedding dress"
(hand in the air) Nah uh lady! You WILL be there, I am not putting everyone else off because you want to go to a 1 year olds party…you never even met this kid! Suck it up and DEAL! *smoke, steam, head spinning*
So then e-mails from the other maids start arriving (excluding my 2 star pupils) asking a million and one questions, which could have been answered if the read the first damn e-mail!
I 100% hate more then anything REPEATING MYSELF! I will never be a person you accuse of being vauge – I explain the first time to avoid annoying conversations later. I feel like if it was important, you woulda heard it the first dang time – asking a clarifying question – normal….asking to have the whole thing repeated…ANNOYING!!!!!
So now I’m stuck – because I have 3 maids that are great, on top of things and happy. 2 of them are distant, never around, claim to care but seem to be put off by the whole thing and one of them is my SIster – who doens’t even have to buy her dress for the wedding By The Way – my mom is doing it (she’s 25! C’mon!) And the other says things like "I can make it as long as nothing major happens" WTF is that? Can’t you make plans!?
Now I’m not sending out e-mails daily about my wedding or expecting them to stop their lives….just when something comes up to be adult enough to mark it down and come. when you need too. I’m not Bridezilla by any means – why is it so difficult to commit?
SHould I say something to them? If so, what? SHould I boot them – I’ve alreayd booted one Bridesmaid or Best Man I don’t really want to make a habbit out of it? I made sure when asking them to be in the wedding to let them know if they needed to bow out it was fine and I would understand or if they said no I would totally ok with it as I understand times get tight and time runs low….
What should I do? It’s really frustrating to me?