(Closed) Seriously Annoyed!!!! Is SO a helpless hypochondriac or is it me!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@annonbee1234:  Poor diet can cause all sorts of problems…anxiety being one of them. The auto policy thing sounds like laziness, but the rest sounds like poor diet symptoms.

Once DH and I started eating properly (I went on My Fitness Pal and counted calories) we felt so much better. My panic attacks were few and far between, I stopped getting heart burn, headaches and stomach cramps/aches, and I had way more energy. I felt SO good.

You need to talk to him about all of this. Anxiety is a real issue and perhaps this is where a lot of his feelings stem from, but he has to want to get it under control in order to do that and in order for you to help him. I’d start with his eating habits as they are atrocious.

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Sugar bee

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@Laurenskii:  I TOTALLY get what you’re saying, but in this case the OP’s SO just went to the doctor today and did receive a diagnosis. I think treating the perceived illness for at least a week or so is reasonable before he decides the diagnosis is wrong.

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Busy bee
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@nanilani04:  – this is good advice 🙂 I hope you can work something out!

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Buzzing bee
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@Jijitattoo:  I agree. The fact he’s not willing to try the acid reflux meds shows it’s more attention seeking than him feeling sick. Hell, I’d feel sick if I ate fast food everyday too..yuck. 

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Buzzing bee
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@annonbee1234:  I’d just go with him to the doctors. Have him change his diet and see if it helps. I don’t care who you are if you’re eating THAT poorly it’s going to have an effect on you. If hes just so set on cancer that hes unwilling to TRY these things then it’s psychological and that’s probably more of a problem :-/

ETA- yes, if it’s acid reflux he will see result quickly with meds and a proper diet change. 

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
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@annonbee1234:  Yikes…this is a slippery slope, because either he’s crying wolf and wants attention OR there is something weird and wrong with him and the doctors are missing it.  I advocate second opinions because doctors aren’t always going to hit it on the head everytime…the human body is complicated and a ton of shit can go wrong with it. 

BUT…and this is a big thing, if he’s not willing to do everything he can to feel better, such as not eating crap and laying around the house like a walrus all the time….he’s a self indulgent jerk who’s using the CANCER word to get what he wants…and to the survivors and sufferers of cancer as well as their friends and family, thats an insult…

Post # 26
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Busy bee
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@annonbee1234:  I have chronic GERD (genetic-everyone in my dads family has it) and it took about two weeks to truly feel better with omeprazole. I also had to have an endoscopy. Untreated acid reflux (chronic and genetic NOT from bad eating and getting heartburn once and awhile- dont wanna freak anyone out haha) can cause esophogeal cancer if left untreated and he should seriously take the medicine. Its extremelly painful and I eat right and am fairly petite so I can’t imagine having GERD and complicating it with bad eating so a diet change should help too (if I ever pig out I get horrible flairups so a newly bad diet could be whats exacerbating his symptoms). 

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

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@annonbee1234:  I’m glad I didn’t offend you with that…  I hated typing it to you.  I would broach the subject though.  More to protect yourself than anything.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee

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@Sunfire:  I hear that. My husband’s mom was convinced she had something seriously wrong with her and it took 3 doctors for her to finally be diagnosed with thyroid cancer. The first two said there wasn’t anything wrong.

Not saying your SO actually has cancer, but sometimes we have a way of knowing something bad is up, that may not be noticed in one doctor’s visit.

– But I totally support the idea many have mentioned about his need to chance his diet. That could do wonders for how he feels.

 

 

Post # 31
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@annonbee1234:  Based solely on what you’ve said and not knowing either of you, it sounds like you are 100 percent correct. If you eat poorly and don’t work out, chances are you will gain weight. 

What makes him think he has cancer? If he was Googling his symptoms, he could have scared himself into thinking it is worse than it actually is. After a second opinion, I hope he let’s it go. 

My answer to the dependency question is, “because you let him.” If my husband wanted me to play secretary when I was busy, I’d tell him to get lost and do it himself. Don’t enable him. 

I wish you luck in sorting through these issues. 

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