- 7 years ago
The boyfriend and I were talking last night, and basically we aren’t going to get married in Hawaii. The flights were around $850 per person round trip, and frankly none of our family can afford that type of price. (We were going to rent a villa or a couple beach houses for guests to stay at so they wouldn’t have to pay hotel prices but that still makes it undoable for our families).
I was talking to boyfriend and he thinks I’m overreacting and stressing about something that I shouldn’t even be worried about since we aren’t officially engaged yet (although I know we will be by the end of the year, and my goal would be to have a wedding June 2012); I realize its still a ways off but I also realize with destination weddings you have to give guests more notice (and I’m in nursing school so the more I can get done early the better).
So we were talking and realized that Hawaii is just not affordable. My boyfriend’s mother hates Mexico, she’s never been and never wants to and if we have a wedding in Mexico she refuses to go; of course her hate for Mexico rubbed off on her son and my boyfriend refuses to even think about going to Mexico (frankly I love Mexico, and frankly Mexico is very affordable). So since Mexico is out of the question I threw off other beachy tropical areas and he didn’t like any of those either.
So it turns out he only wants a destination wedding if we can get married in Hawaii. He thinks we should get married in St Louis. That was the original plan, but I just wasn’t excited about it. Frankly, I go to St Louis on a fairly regular basis and its old and boring. He thinks it would be sentimental and sweet because it is where we first met, I on the other hand have serious distaste in my mouth because our first meeting in St Louis was a huge disaster (so big of a disaster that we actually broke up). I don’t like St Louis.
He has been trying to reassure me that St Louis will give me the destination wedding weekend I dream of, but honestly it won’t. I won’t get my intimiate little ceremony with 35 or so guests, I’m going have a “Wedding” with 100+ guests. I’m not going to get the wedding weekend, because its only 4 hours away from our families so they will only end up spending one night in St Louis instead of a whole week or weekend. I looked a venues and found a cute little house that you can rent that will accomodate up to 200 people (for a party). Its outside the city, its secluded, its sweet, its pretty, it overlooks the Mississippi river (which frankly isn’t that pretty) and its nice and it could incorporate our love for family, friends, relaxation, fun, etc but it doesn’t excite me. St Louis has the arch, has shopping, has the zoo, and misc other little things but nothing to have a big weekend like I have dreamed.
Boyfriend doesn’t understand why I am upset. He says he will take me to Hawaii for our honeymoon, and I get to get married and have a wedding so why am I upset, blah blah blah!
It looks like my wedding will become exactly what I don’t want it to, and maybe I shouldn’t worry because I will be marrying my best friend but honestly I’m seriously bummed and I’m not at all excited about having a wedding. I would rather run off and elope and do what I dreamed, but I also know that he would never go for something like that.
Sorry for the rant I’m just bummed.