(Closed) Seriously Bummed (long)

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Awwww, sorry to hear. Just a shot in the dark, but my cousin wanted to get married in Hawaii to… but ran into the same problem. They ended up honeymooning there and did a symbolic ceremony in hawaii. Didn’t know if maybe that was something you could do.

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wow, so sorry you are disappointed 🙁 I hope you feel better soon. Have you considered doing a Destination Wedding in Florida? The flights there might be more affordable and you could  create a wedding weekend more along what you want to do. My co-worker is in the same dilemma. She wanted Hawaii, then Costa Rica, her family is against Mexico, and the price was overwhelming! She’s now thinking of Florida as a compromise.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

So I don’t mean to cause more trouble for you, but why is it that what he wants (no Destination Wedding unless it’s Hawaii, so essentially, no DW) trumps what you want? Why is there no room for compromise on another beachy location?

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Have you thought of the Dominican Republic? Still a destination wedding but most of the resorts are all-inclusive and much more reasonable that a flight and hotel in Hawaii.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Jamaica is another option – the all-incusives really are a great deal, and they have wedding packages that make it very affordable.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@princs.sweetie: I get it about financial burden, but isn’t the point to keep numbers down so you can have the small intimate affair with only those who will make it a financial priority to be there? Consider this your first major opportunity to compromise. Don’t give up your wants and needs to please him because you may find yourself resentful and unhappy. Who will all the planning fall to? If it’s on your future Fiance to make all the arrangements, then okay. If you have to plan an event that you don’t want, that sounds like trouble ahead.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@princs.sweetie: I get that he’s concerned about his family’s financial situation, but then why was he okay with Hawaii? Was it because on some level he knew it would be out of reach, so it was “safe,” and now that you’re offering other suggestions, he “doesn’t like” any of the others? It just seems silly that it’s Hawaii or nothing… and he should be equally concerned that the thought of St. Louis makes you unhappy. I would keep discussing, but don’t settle for St. Louis if you’re really dead-set against it.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@princs.sweetie: Whew! Good for you. You know, those who pay have the most say. Good luck 🙂

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You can still do a small (35+) ceremony in Saint Louis. The gazebo at the MoBot comes to mind…

 

Is what you want a beach, or just a small wedding? Maybe he can give up the big wedding and you can give up the beach?

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@princs.sweetie: I just did a search on kayak.com for June 1, 2011 to get an idea of cost. It’s $700 to go from Springfield, $400 from St. Louis to places like Aruba or Puerto Rico. I think the Carribbean may be doable.

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