(Closed) Seriously, can I get some clarification?

posted 8 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@MandaMack: I wouldn’t worry about it.  Go about your normal posts and if you get banned, cross that bridge when you get there.  It’s not that big of a deal to you, is it?

Post # 4
3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@MandaMack: I think if there are multiple personal attacks (or maybe just one really bad one). Probably also if the user has received multiple warning about inappropriate behavior and has ignored them.

Post # 5
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@MandaMack: I absolutely agree. I got my first warning yesterday and I seriously felt like I was being sent to the principals office. While I do agree that what I posted was not the nicest, the Bee it was directed towards, in my opinion, deserved it. The mod was very nice about it though. I apologized and all’s well but it definitely did worry me that now I’m on some “WB terrorist watch list” or something. 

But as for your question, I think I read somewhere that theres a 3 strikes and your out policy in affect (could be wrong). 

Post # 7
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I don’t think they ever ban someone after one post that they deem inappropriate. You’d have to say something pretty vile (well beyond anything you’d ever think to say I’m sure) for that to happen. If you cross the line you’ll get a pm from a mod who will tell you and you’ll get to continue on. So you can probably just use your judgment and post what you want to and if you start getting pms then you’ll know to pull back. 


Post # 8
1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I noticed you stopped posting as much, I was wondering why and now it makes sense.  I am not sure if the 3 strikes policy is in effect but I think it’s 3 warnings and you are out.

Post # 9
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it’s okay to be blunt with tact.
“No, I don’t think that dress is flattering at all on you.” vs “My god you look terrible!” ^_^


Post # 13
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Hopefully Mr. Bee will jump in here and explain how all this works.

The Flag system just alerts the monitors that users feel something is inappropriate.  If the moderators review and they agree usually they either will step in, remove the post, close the thread, or PM the user. 

Continue to use your best judgement, but remember this site is meant to be supportive.  I’m not saying don’t be honest, but there is a way to be honest without coming across as rude/snarky.  Its a really tough to say things on the web that would normally be just blunt IRL, but because there are just words on a page, it can come across very differently. 


Post # 14
4824 posts
Honey bee

@Miss Tattoo: This… Agreed. Its how its said, not what you are saying.

Post # 16
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Also, I know I have posted this over and over, but for example, if you don’t like someones dress, do what Miss Tattoo: suggests and state it nicely.  However, I would also suggest offering some support.  This means something like, “No, I don’t think the dress isn’t flattering on you but maybe try this style or designer“.

I think its the second part of that statement that makes WB so great.  Not only do I come here for support, but I also get ideas.  If you don’t agree with me thats fine, but offer up some other ideas for me! 

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