Post # 1
Its been months since I’ve posted, but I’m turning to the hive again for advice!
Fiance and I got engaged in Nov 2011. Due to family health issues, we planned for the wedding to be Sept. 21, 2013. So far we have the venue (which includes food, cake, ceremony, etc) and a photographer. We’ve put down a combined $3200 on those two items.
My girls were on my case about getting a dress, so we went to David’s 2 weeks ago. I fell in love with a dress and it was only $300! So I scooped it up. And I got an email TODAY that it’s in already!
So here I am…17 months out from the wedding…with the venue, a photographer, the dress…and I just don’t want to wait anymore! My Future Brother-In-Law (who had the health issues) has made a drastic recovery and while he’s not 100% he’s no longer in the hospital.
I am ready to be FI’s wife. I am ready to start our life together. And I am seriously considering just eloping then throwing a big party to celebrate.
But I’m terrified that one day I’ll regret it…
Post # 3
@KatyLovesJoey: Missing a wedding because you don’t want to have one & eloping is one thing… but skipping it altogether when you’ve already done some work, put down some $ because you’re impatient is another.
You haven’t been engaged all that long sweetie! Try to enjoy it!
Post # 4
There’s nothing wrong with enjoying your engagement for a short time. You have your whole life to be married! If you think you’ll regret eloping now you probably will.
Post # 5
I think you should try and wait just because from everything you’ve said it sounds like the moment might be worth waiting for at the wedding you’ve already started planning!
Post # 6
i can relate! but i agree with the other bees, try holding out. enjoy your engagement! if you want a wedding, you will be happy you waited once it comes.
at least this is what i am telling myself 🙂
Post # 7
Think of how you would feel 30 years down the line if you and Fiance eloped. Would you be happy with your choice? It’s great that you’re so excited to officially begin your lives together, and I understand how anxious you are. However, I think that when you look back at this point in your life, you would really appreciate the effort you put into a beautiful wedding, and the fact that you were able to share such a special day with family and friends. Your Fiance will be by your side and the two of you will share love and life regardless if you’re married soon or next year.
Post # 8
We had a courthouse wedding and we’ve never once regretted it. I say go for it!
Post # 9
Speaking as a person who has had 2 ceremonies due to immigration, the civil ceremony was very nice and beautiful, but it just didn’t feel complete until we had the later ceremony with all of our friends and family there.
Like the other ladies said, try to relax and enjoy your engagement! It’ll go by faster then you expect, I promise!
Post # 10
We lost about 500 dollars in deposits and we are opting to elope this September and have a big reception in October, only a month later. It has made me SOO happy. I dont think you will regret it if its something you really want.
Post # 11
Can you quantify how much you *think* you’ll regret it?
I mean some of us aren’t really into the whole big wedding thing, so while thoughts of a big wedding might be nice or even dreadful, eloping is just more appealing overall.
Others cannot dream their big day without 200 of their closest friends and family surrounding them, and eloping would make them cry.
Where do you see yourself on this scale?
Do you know which of your deposits you can get back? I got all of my venue deposit back as there was a 120 day cutoff.
Post # 12
It seems like a really personal choice. We strongly considered it, but then opted for a Destination Wedding with a small number of guests.
Some other things to think about:
How does your fiance feel about eloping?
What will your family say/do if you elope, and how much do you care about that?
Could you move your wedding date at your venue to a sooner date?
Just some thoughts. I don’t think there is anything wrong with eloping, it’s just very personal.