(Closed) Seriously, FI?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Why don’t you just sit down and have a talk with him?  I think that would be better than sending him a message….you need to discuss this live with him.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you’re picking a fight about something that doesn’t need to be a fight.

You’re both stressed. How about, instead of accusing him and nagging him, you practice the faith and understanding that you’re going to need to have a successful marriage? A little “Sweetie, i’m so sorry life is crazy for both of us right now! I just wanted to double check the spelling of a couple of these names with you before I write them on the invites” will go a long way. He isn’t intentionally doing this – he’s probably just really overwhelmed!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

1. Thank him first for getting the list together

2. Tell him, in a non-accusatory, gentle way, that half the names are mispelled and they have to be corrected

3. Propose to him that the two of you go through the list together and make the right corrections

4. Add, “it’ll probably only take 10 minutes, tops.” 

5. Ask, “When would be a good time for you to do it?” and coordinate your schedules. 

(this is pretty much the script for when Darling Husband and I have a breakdown and need to regroup. It helps to re-state that a) crap has to get done b) we’ll do crap together c) we’ll figure out when to do it so we don’t stress each other out)

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think you have every right to be irked about this. I’m learning that there is something about weddings that makes everyone think that the bride is charge of EVERYTHING. Way too much stress on you. After all, it is a wedding for both of you!

I think you should give him a call (and it the calmest way possible) let him know you were upset and why you were upset. Explain that you are really busy and under a lot of stress too. Then ask him to go over the names with you again. I bet he doesn’t even realize he spelled the names wrong.

Good luck! I’m sure it’ll work out!

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