(Closed) Seriously FMIL?! Vent, sorry it’s longish!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Did she fall down and hit her head? Your fiance needs to tell his mom, “I’m sorry mom, but it is impossible to send out these invites. The other invites have already gone out and we don’t have room in the budget. I am sorry if you had told us earlier in the planning process we would have been able to accomodate you. At this point if you want to invite these guests, you are going to have to pay for them.” But your fiance definitely needs to take the lead on this.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Wow, I am so so sorry that you and Fiance have to deal with this- totally unfair and mean spirited…

My first reaction is to say don’t let her threathen you guys…can Fiance explain that these women are extremely close family friends and not just acquaintances?

It seems though, that logic and reason may not work with her.

I’m sorry I don’t have more helpful advice- honestly sometimes people that are this difficult can’t often be reasoned with…Does Fiance have any ideas since he knows his mom best?

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@Kcoleybear: you are absolutely right, Fiance needs to take charge and handle this assertively.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Evie19: Yes I have found with my frequent and often not so nice dealings with my Future Mother-In-Law that is always 100% better when fiance takes the lead.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

OP, I don’t know if you guys plan on having kids, but someone needs to remind your Future Mother-In-Law that the daughter-in-law is the keeper of the grandkids!

I think you are totally justified in feeling pissed off, but no one wants a family WWIII before their wedding.  Have you had any guests decline yet?  Maybe your Fiance can talk to his mom and appease her by saying that the guest list is full, but if some guests cancel, you will try to work in her additional guests.  

And I agree with PP – Fiance should take the lead on this one. Good luck!  

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m so sorry you have to deal with this. I also have a mil from hell. Honestly, I wouldn’t allow her to bring her friends, unless of course she’s going to pay for them or at least contribute to your wedding. She has no say who does and doesn’t get invited.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

INSANE!!!! I hope your Fiance told her that if she had something to say that she KNEW would make you angry, the correct response was to NOT SAY IT AT ALL!!! He is not going to keep secrets from his WIFE just so his mother isn’t exposed for being selfish and petty!

OP, I hope your wedding is beautiful and I hope someone slips your Mother-In-Law a xanax!

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