(Closed) Seriously?!?! I mean, Really?!?!…. Need to vent

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Would you elope?
    YES : (23 votes)
    26 %
    NEVER : (26 votes)
    29 %
    Maybe, but I'd want to have an informal party later to celebrate with friends and family : (41 votes)
    46 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    Hmmm I voted yes, but it’s only partially true. I would have had a very hard time getting married without my parents and his parents there, but that’s about it. So, I guess, yeah I could elope, but bring the parents! 🙂

    (kinda what we did anyway; we planned our wedding, let people know that it was happening and that they could come if they wanted, only made sure that the parents would be there)… A few others showed up. To us, it was better than a big party because we were able to concentrate on each other and to have quality time with the few guests.

    Post # 4
    Member
    108 posts
    Blushing bee

    Mr. Tiny and I talked about eloping, and we always joke about it – but because he’s very close to his family, eloping just isn’t an option. We are both low key and quiet people, so eloping would have been perfect (and my family is just crazy)! *sigh*

    Post # 5
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    2408 posts
    Buzzing bee

    i will be honest: i would not elope. i want the party. the pomp and circumstance. i want my family and friends there. and yes, i will admit it: i want to be the center of attention.

    not exactly the best reason for a wedding but i know that deep down i would not be happy eloping. yes i’ll be married to my guy but i want to share that moment with those i care about. marriage isn’t just about the couple, but its also a blending of families and i want to be able to honor that.

    Post # 6
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    806 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I wouldn’t elope.  Even if we had zero money for a wedding, we’d have to have our immediate families there with us at the courthouse – so it wouldn’t really be a “run off and get married” kind of thing.  While no one cares about our wedding as much as we do, I know that our parents and other relatives are really looking forward to it too.  Getting married is one of life’s happiest occasions – if you’re not going to make a fuss over this, then what else in life would merit one?  It’s important to me to celebrate big milestones and rites of passage… I guess others may see it differently.

    Post # 7
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    2588 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Why not propose to him? Just an idea. 🙂

    I would not elope; we talked about it, but I do find the idea of a small wedding very romantic. Basically, we’re having a teensy ceremony so it’s sort of like eloping, but we can invite more people. Best of both worlds, at least for us.

    Post # 8
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    179 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Eloping would be sooo  much less stress…at this point, i honestly sometimes wish we would have, then planned an informal (if at all) family gathering.  Even though i’ve always wanted a wedding.  We’re of course excited for the wedding and all we’ve planned though and Im sure come day of, or week before, we’ll never regret planning and having the wedding we’ve wanted!

    Post # 9
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    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Depending on the situation, I actually think eloping is pretty romantic. However, our families would be upset if they didn’t at least have the opportunity to be involved. my SO’s mother has been waiting for the day her only son gets engaged and married anxiously and I think she’d be crushed if she missed it lol.

    Post # 10
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    1871 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I WISH I could have eloped! I WANTED to elope! But my parents said “over our dead bodies” and FH wanted them there and so we compromised. With 8 people.

    (And we will have a backyard BBQ-type party later on–I’ve been successfully dragged into the wedding ringamarole since this whole thing started.)

     

    Post # 11
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    1871 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Oh, but I’m curious–what exactly are you “venting” over? That another friend got married?

    Post # 13
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    1871 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Ah. Your time will come, don’t worry.

    Post # 14
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    2408 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Wonderwoman217: now worries. not only are the bulk of my friends married or getting married, but they’re also starting to have kids. i feel like i’m soooo behind! their kids are gonna be so much older than mine.

    Post # 15
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    935 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    Just thinking about wedding planning can feel overwhelming, so I can definitely understand wanting to elope!

    Or maybe having a small, destination wedding with just a few close friends and family. Seems like a compromise.

    Post # 16
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    3587 posts
    Sugar bee

    We aren’t eloping…not really. We plan to have a small destination wedding with mostly immediate family and a few others if they can afford it. We purposely want it small, but we don’t just want us two there.

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