(Closed) Seriously? I wish some people would just GROW UP! Vent!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

If you don’t like these people, it doesn’t matter what they think.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

@Olive12: If she wasn’t going to tell you who it was, why did she tell you at all? That would make anyone upset. I’m sorry people are being so rude about your engagement. Just do your best to brush it off. In the end, it really doesn’t matter what they think. Their opinions aren’t important and aren’t going to stop you from having a wonderful wedding.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

That is when I would just make a trip back to my hometown to tell these morons in person that they can go straight to hell.  Perhaps your mom needs to find a new church where people aren’t idiots.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would be LIVID. Tell your mom she gives you names or else no one from your hometown will be on the invite list. Why did she tell you in the first place? Was she upset you skipped on traditions as well? I don’t know if your mom is the manipulative type, but she may have exaggerated if she too was disappointed. It seems like a really weird thing to do- make your daughter upset and angry then conceal the people who were so rude. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sorry to hyperfocus on your mom. The only reason I bring it up is because I can’t imagine inviting people to my wedding who said horrible things about me behind my back. Major ick factor. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m sorry that people are making rude comments but unfortunately there are mean people in this world. You have every right to be upset by them because it’s hurtful. I’m sure part of you wants names and addresses so you can tell them off but quite honestly would it make a difference? If someone is so insensitive to say something so rude as you not being engaged because you didn’t have an engagement ceremony or imply your ring is fake do you think telling them off will make them apologize? What ever excuse they give for being rude won’t wipe the hurt away. Believe me I understand your anger, hurt and plain ‘ol “I want to tell them off” feelings but why let someones ingornance to your personal life get you down.

I don’t think your mom should have said anything to you, there was no point in that and I’m sure she knew it would upset you. Did she think you’d react “Oh yea, that’s so sweet of her to say. Tell her I said thank you”. Your mother should have kept it to herself and if she was to shocked to say anything at the moment she should have thought of a come back to put those people in their place. That’s what a mother should do, protect their childrens feelings.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MrsBroccoli: This completely, there is no way in hell I’d let any of those people attend my wedding! How horrible to try to take a happy event and twist it into something bad simply because you skipped some optional ceremony that people where you currently live simply don’t do.

There is a simple answer for all of these rude b*tces (I really can’t think of another word to use here!): ‘What an awful thing to say! Although an engagement ceremony is common here, where Olive12 and her Fiance live and will be married it is not. They skipped it because of that plus other reasons involving travel, family being all over the country, and just having things they’d rather spend the money on. Regardless, anyone who would judge them or make nasty comments over such a thing has no place at an engagement ceremony or their wedding.”

Oh man, I got kind of carried away there…but you get what I’m trying to say. But yeah do NOT put together a guest list till you get names, and those people are not invited. The right thing would be for your mom to stick up for you to these horrible people, I hope she does so!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Not to continue pushing the focus on your mother, but I don’t understand why she’d tell you what people were saying without letting you know who said it. You can’t defend yourself to people if you don’t know who you should be talking to. (Your mom should also have your back! Hopefully she goes back to those people and tells them to shove it LOL)

I also think that it wouldn’t hurt to tell your mom that if she doesn’t fess up who has been saying these things, that nobody from your hometown should get an invite.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Olive12: I’m really sorry =(  Update and let us know how the second call goes, we’re always here for venting!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would put the exact post you put on here on your facebook page for all of those people who are making these comments can see. Since you cannot identify them personally. Then you wont have to worry about them showing up at your wedding. I say screw them. lol.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I sware, I dont understand why people are so RUDE! who cares if people decide to do things differently? sheeesh! I cant believe some of the comments were directly to your moms face, I would have been heartbroken! Grrr the nerve of people!

 

congrats by the way!!!! 🙂

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

@Olive12: This would piss me off so bad I would put an announcement of your engagement in their local paper –  with a big photo of you and FH and your beautiful ring. Screw them

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