(Closed) SERIOUSLY?! I work SO hard for THIS kind of treatment?!

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

1. Hire a cleaning service that you both agree to pay for…lots of us with busy lives find that having a service to clean every couple of weeks is well worth the money not only in time but in eliminating the frustration that you are feeling now.

2. Now, it will still mean the laundry needs to get done and the dishwasher run in-between, but you should either do a chore chart or something like above, or DO THEM TOGETHER. 1 hour on a weekend and you should be able to get the bulk of the big stuff done, and no discussion on who spent more time.  

3. If you want tips on cleaning quickly and orderly, try Flylady.com

Post # 33
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

double post

Post # 34
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@StuporDuck:  Took the words straight out of my mouth.


I say create a chore chart that works for you or split it up. Or even split up the chores! I hate taking out the trash, laundry, and dishes, so my husband does those mainly while I take care of everything else (vaccuming, shower, toilet, dusting, picking up clutter etc.) and it works for us.

Another thing that my ex and I did was one day that we both had off we dedicated the whole day to cleaning the ENTIRE place like literally from top to bottom to get back to ‘square one’. Then after that we took about an hour out of EVERY Sunday to clean up (to help maintain the clean!)


…or you could hire a cleaning service.

Post # 35
1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would NEVER EVER marry someone who thought it was my place to do the vast majority of house work, despite similar workloads. And I certainly wouldn’t marry someone who easily dismissed my concerns as “nagging”. I would make your expectations of him very clear and he can do the same for you and see if you can find out where the root of the problem lies. A calendar of chores will help, but not unless you can both be happy with (or at least, understand) the underlying expectations to begin with.

Post # 36
5373 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I feel like I could have written this post! It actually makes me feel better to see someone else is experiencing the exact same things as me (although we definitely aren’t as busy as you two!). I don’t have any advice but I’m glad I popped into this thread. I love what Crayfish suggested, I think we’ll give Chore Wars a try 😉

Post # 37
3120 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I always politely remind DH that it’s only nagging if I have to ask more than once ;o)


Be careful not to make things tit-for-tat.  Thank him when he does things and keep doing what you feel able to do.

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