(Closed) Seriously, is this happening again????

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
6867 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

You’re overreacting by a mile. Bachelorette parties are not strictly Bridesmaids Only and I can’t imagine a 17-year-old who wouldn’t find it really annoying to hang out with a bunch of twenty-something’s for most of a weekend. What does your sister think of the idea?

Post # 3
1119 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

 If she’s close enough to be a bridesmaid, I don’t understand why a side-kick is needed at the intimate bachelorette party.  The only thing I can think of is that the aunt is worried about her kid being the only one to not drink and feeling lonely?  But still, odd. 

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 2 months ago by  RedWine13.
Post # 4
1162 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m blessed to not have people like that around and no one has intruded like that on any of my plans *knock on wood* Lets see how the wedding goes though when I get RSVPs back!

Your story made me chuckle though! 😀

Post # 6
2786 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

….I wouldn’t be thrilled about my underage daughter hanging out alone with a bunch of people who were drinking, and would have probably suggested the same.

Post # 9
1162 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014


alyssaC: I did the same thing for ours with FIs cousins, I added in their partners (regardless of the fact one of them has broken up a minimum of 10 times and the other is on her 3rd I think since STDs went out *rolls eyes* 🙂 ) we love them anyway and it wouldn’t be anywhere near worth the drama!


Roll with the punches, its easier! 😛

Post # 11
881 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think aunt underestimates how much 17 year olds want to be accepted by their older cousins and I am sure your cousin is pumped to be invited. As long as you guys are like getting wasted and relying on her to take care of you I don’t see the big deal, and I think you did the right thing.

My husband’s family can be exhuasting to deal with. We used to all get a long great but unfortunately the only way they don’t get on our nerves now is to spend very little time with them. Its actually the approach I’ve tried to take with several family members (including my sister) where since we live a minimum of 8 hours from these people I keep my distance unless necessay and it makes the times we have to interact much easier/more enoyable. Recently we’e moved away and DH’s parents are cool, and suddenly family he never speaks to/sees more than a few times a year are super angry with us even after we explained we will still be at the big family stuff we usually go to anyway. *le sigh* can’t please everyone!

Post # 13
1152 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

alyssaC:  I have an aunt who invites her friends to basically every family gathering we have and it drives us all crazy! She even invited them to my younger brothers birthday at my parents house a few months back.. it was so awkward, and she invited them in front of my mum so she couldn’t say no without looking rude! We are a very close family and we have such a great time together, it’s just really odd having these randoms there!

You did the right thing telling her straight away. I don’t think you’re overeacting by getting frustrated given this is a reoccurring theme with her!

Post # 14
1995 posts
Buzzing bee

Maybe you could hold oft on the drinking that night. For my BP, we did something that was age appropriate for everyone and then something later that was 21+ out of respect food my underage bridesmaids and their parents. I would be concerned if my daughter was going to be the only underage girl at a party where alcohol was served.

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