(Closed) Seriously? Long lace white dress to wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9674 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

Both white dresses sound very inappropriate to me

Post # 4
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

wow, that is so rude! But good for your cousin for not noticing! I really hope she was able to enjoy her day regardless.

Post # 5
3076 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Sigh, some people just want attention, I mean unless the bride is wearing a dress that’s not white, I don’t see why anyone would think of wearing a white dress ( especially a sheath/ a line).

Post # 6
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If your cousin was acting like she didn’t even notice, perhaps each of these ladies asked her about their outfits ahead of time and she (like many brides) wasn’t bothered a bit. 

Post # 7
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Oh, boy.  I’m not one to follow every single little rule, but white to a wedding as a guest is a big no-no in my opinion.  I get nervous wearing a dress that even has a little white in the PATTERN.


Although, at my own cousin’s wedding, the mother of the bride (my aunt) wore a white spaghetti-strap gown.  I was only 18 at the time, but I was SPEECHLESS.  I couldn’t believe it!  I have told my mother she better not do the same thing at my wedding… LOL!

Post # 8
5543 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m not one to freak out about stuff like this,  but at the same time,  was there really nothing else in their closet wedding appropriate than a dress that looked like the bride’s? 

Post # 9
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Maybe the bride had told them she didn’t mind. 

Post # 10
1075 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

That’s incredibly inappropriate, considering many brides today opt for “non-bridal” simple long white dresses for their wedding gowns. 


What exactly was that woman thinking? I wonder if she did it to show up the bride on purpose, or if she’s just thick-headed.

Post # 11
4980 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Honestly, if that was my wedding, I probably would’ve had her kicked out. 

Post # 12
7276 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@hollyberry4:  Glad your cousin didn’t seem to notice! I never really thought it would bother me until I went with Fiance to his cousin’s wedding. We got there and I noticed FI’s brother’s Girlfriend (geez that was a mouthful) was wearing a long, flowy, white dress. There were a couple times I caught her out of the corner of my eye and thought she was the bride. I know that no one would actually mistake her for the bride if they looked at her, but I thought it was rather annoying that she wore this particular dress. I know for a fact she had never met the bride before so it’s not like it was someone who asked her opinion. 


Post # 14
1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wow. I’m pretty lenient about attire (I don’t care as long as they’re covered up!), but that is definitely crossing a line.

Post # 15
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would freak! I know I shouldn’t, but I would! No WAY!

Post # 16
1846 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

For the ladies saying you would freak out or have the guests kicked out, for real? Like are being serious or are you just venting? 

Because while I don’t care in the slightest What my guests wear, (although a long white gown is a bit eyebrow raising) I seariously doubt I’d even notice on the day of, let alone let it bother me enough to want to kick them out?! 

Personally, I’d go up to her and be like “wow, what a nice dress, it looks so similar to mine.. You should have called me to coordinate first ;)” and then we would have laughed, and she probably would have gotten the point, or maybe not.. But I certainly wouldn’t have kicked her out!

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