Post # 1
I went to my cousins wading and reception yesterday and it was lovely! My cousin looked beautiful in her dress— strapless lace slight A-line.
I was shocked by two of her guests’ attire choices. One wore a knee- length white lace dress (not too bad but a little eyebrow raising), and another wore a floor-length white lace dress!
I am not anal about people wearing white to weddings, but I thought the long white lace dress was pretty inappropriate, especially considering the bride’s dress. The venue was outdoor and there were not a lot of lights so it was fairly dim at night. On 3 separate occasions as this guest walked by I thought she was my cousin (the bride) and had to do a double take.
I don’t think my cousin even noticed honestly, but I was just really surprised that someone would wear a long white lace dress to a wedding!!!
Post # 3
Both white dresses sound very inappropriate to me
Post # 4
wow, that is so rude! But good for your cousin for not noticing! I really hope she was able to enjoy her day regardless.
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
Sigh, some people just want attention, I mean unless the bride is wearing a dress that’s not white, I don’t see why anyone would think of wearing a white dress ( especially a sheath/ a line).
Post # 6
If your cousin was acting like she didn’t even notice, perhaps each of these ladies asked her about their outfits ahead of time and she (like many brides) wasn’t bothered a bit.
Post # 7
Oh, boy. I’m not one to follow every single little rule, but white to a wedding as a guest is a big no-no in my opinion. I get nervous wearing a dress that even has a little white in the PATTERN.
Although, at my own cousin’s wedding, the mother of the bride (my aunt) wore a white spaghetti-strap gown. I was only 18 at the time, but I was SPEECHLESS. I couldn’t believe it! I have told my mother she better not do the same thing at my wedding… LOL!
Post # 8
I’m not one to freak out about stuff like this, but at the same time, was there really nothing else in their closet wedding appropriate than a dress that looked like the bride’s?
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Maybe the bride had told them she didn’t mind.
Post # 10
That’s incredibly inappropriate, considering many brides today opt for “non-bridal” simple long white dresses for their wedding gowns.
What exactly was that woman thinking? I wonder if she did it to show up the bride on purpose, or if she’s just thick-headed.
Post # 11
Honestly, if that was my wedding, I probably would’ve had her kicked out.
Post # 12
@hollyberry4: Glad your cousin didn’t seem to notice! I never really thought it would bother me until I went with Fiance to his cousin’s wedding. We got there and I noticed FI’s brother’s Girlfriend (geez that was a mouthful) was wearing a long, flowy, white dress. There were a couple times I caught her out of the corner of my eye and thought she was the bride. I know that no one would actually mistake her for the bride if they looked at her, but I thought it was rather annoying that she wore this particular dress. I know for a fact she had never met the bride before so it’s not like it was someone who asked her opinion.
Post # 13
It’s possible that she had approval from the bride, but I really think the bride just didn’t pay much attention. The reception was very laid back– open seating or you could take your plates to the cocktail area, etc. The bride and groom did not come around table to table but moreso mingled with people throughout the evening.
The lady in the long lace dress had a young child she was looking after/chasing around and then she left early, Not sure if they even really spoke at all. Everyone else sure noticed, though. Our aunt even wore an all-white skirt and top! However, it was clearly a beachy/cotton look, and not at all like the lacy white dresses of the other ladies. Another guy was dressed in jeans. We were just thinking “what is going on!?!” because it was fairly formal! (coat and tie)
Post # 14
Wow. I’m pretty lenient about attire (I don’t care as long as they’re covered up!), but that is definitely crossing a line.
Post # 15
I would freak! I know I shouldn’t, but I would! No WAY!
Post # 16
For the ladies saying you would freak out or have the guests kicked out, for real? Like are being serious or are you just venting?
Because while I don’t care in the slightest What my guests wear, (although a long white gown is a bit eyebrow raising) I seariously doubt I’d even notice on the day of, let alone let it bother me enough to want to kick them out?!
Personally, I’d go up to her and be like “wow, what a nice dress, it looks so similar to mine.. You should have called me to coordinate first ;)” and then we would have laughed, and she probably would have gotten the point, or maybe not.. But I certainly wouldn’t have kicked her out!