(Closed) Seriously??? Not ONE single RSVP?

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
Member
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Agggghhh!!!! I don’t know why people are so lazy with RSVPs???? I can imagine your frustration!

I sometimes wonder if people don’t understand rsvps. I’ve talked to some who think that if they don’t respond, that’s a “yes”. Others think that their lack of response should be taken as a “no”.

You may have to hunt these people down for an answer. It’s frustrating and slightly embarrassing, but you want to know the headcount.

I hope come Monday you have a bunch of responses come in. Good luck!

Post # 4
Member
1014 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

oh no, that totally sucks.  i wouldn’t take it personal, though.  people just don’t understand how to rsvp.  you’d think it would be simple, right?  but it just seems like people often don’t realize how important it is to have a proper head count.  now when i host showers for people, i usually put “regrets only” so those who aren’t planning to come have to call, and everyone else can not respond and counted as a yes.  sorry for your situation, can your Maid/Matron of Honor (or whoever is hosting) make some calls to find out what’s up with everyone?

Post # 5
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Who is hosting your shower? I’d have them make follow up phone calls! I think the lack of responses is MUCH more about laziness than you being unpopular. I have a tendency to put of RSVP-ing till the last minute sometimes. I’m trying to remedy that. But I’m a pretty organized person, so I figure that if I put off things like that, other people must, too. 🙂

Good luck and happy almost-wedding-shower!

Post # 6
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3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Mrs Hedgehog: My RSVP deadline is in two weeks and only 6% of the guests have replied.

Post # 7
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2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh jeez.  I’d have the host call them or you track them down.  Most likely people are just being lazy or didn’t realize it wasn’t regrets only.

Good luck! 

My invites went out the other day apparently… my mom is hosting but refused to let me see the guest list.  FUN. 😉

Post # 8
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5183 posts
Bee Keeper

I feel so bad for you 🙁 I also feel like I might be in the same position… I will be moving in with Fiance soon and I won’t know a single person in LA. My friends have offered to come out but I really do not want them to spend that kind of money…

Post # 9
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200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

awwww, sorry! I hope they start rolling in soon.

Post # 10
Member
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m sorry.  My shower invitations went out a couple of weeks ago and the responses are coming in slowly. 

How many people did you invite?  I don’t like it when people don’t respond, it makes you almost question if you should bother inviting them to the wedding or not.   A YES or NO is fine.

Post # 11
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264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I actually had to CALL/EMAIL/TEXT people I had invited to my shower that I wasn’t even hosting! One of my bridesmaids were and about a week before the shower, she told me that she had only heard from my mom (who was a yes) and my aunt (who was a no). Not even the other BM’s had told her yet! I was so embarrassed! 

When I called people, I even got a couple “Oh I’m sorry. I just assummed I could show up if I could make it and I think that that’s what others are thinking too.” SERIOUSLY?!!? 

I feel your frustration. It’s annoying and embarassing. I’m so sorry. You aren’t unpopular; people are just lazy and ignorant about RSVP’s. 

Post # 12
Member
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Oh no. I would just have whoever is hosting the party call and get verbal rsvp’s

Post # 13
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1314 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I agree with PP’s on having the host make a barrage of phone calls. Not a lot of people understand RSVP’s so that might be why. I’m sure people will show up, you just won’t know who!

Post # 14
Hostess
11246 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Mrs Hedgehog: I can relate to your frustration. As other bees have said I don’t get why people seem to leave RSVPing to the last minute. I sent out our wedding invites on the 17th March and are still waiting to hear from about half of them. Surely you know if you can come or not when you open it… Argh

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