- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
wow. just wow. i have to vent somewhere since i wont say it to her because *that* would be rude.
back story: a friend who used to be a good friend who is now a causual friend is getting married. she said she was having a small wedding, so i wasn’t expecting to be invited. no biggie – totally understand not a problem.
she sends out her invites and starts getting back RSVPs about 2 months ago.
last week i get an email from her Maid/Matron of Honor inviting me to her bachelorette and bridal shower. i politely decline since one, its a week away from the shower, and the bachelorette is on a day that i have already planned a good friend of mine’s shower. plus, as a non invited person to the wedding – i was kind of offended then with the invite to the shower, one since it was obviously last minute, and really just seemed like a gift grab.
but i didnt mention that just politely declined to her Maid/Matron of Honor.
i get a message from the bride asking if i got the invite to the shower and bach. i said i did but had to decline and told her i was busy on both dates. she commented on my good friend’s bridal shower and kinda hinted about it – i said yes its small since its a very small wedding, and you shouldnt invite folks to the shower who arent invited to the wedding.
i come home to check my mail today. theres an invite in the mail. to the wedding. it was mailed yesterday. the RSVP date is Friday. FRIDAY. for a wedding that is in less than 30 days.
i am so offended. why even send an invite at all? everything that has happened in the last couple weeks just makes me think the bride is out for gifts and money (since she even put the donation website above her wedding website on the *front of her invites)
either way, i cant go anyway since its the weekend of my anniversary and hubby and i are going on vacation. but i am so very offended that someone would be THIS obviously out for gifts.
maybe i am looking at this wrong, and if i am, someone please set me straight but come on now… is anybody kidding?
ok. vent over. i feel better – and at least now i wont blow up at her if i talk to her.