(Closed) Seriously, seriously depressed

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t really have any advice, but wanted to offer my sympathy. Sounds like everything is hitting the fan all at once.

Has your mom ever been to rehab? Is that something that you and your sister could help her start? Or maybe even AA meetings?

Can you talk to your company about putting you up when you have to work for weeks/months in that area?

I don’t really know what to offer other than *hugs*.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

it sounds like you need to talk to a therapist. you have a lot going on right now, and if you’ve been depressed for a long time, you really need to seek professional help.

also, please go to al-anon. it’s a great place for people with alcoholic loved ones, and you will get plenty of the support you need.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I’m sorry I don’t have any true words of wisdom. Just know that we are always here to listen and people do care!  Yes, strangers can sometimes care more than our own families, odd huh?

I know you must worry about your mom but sounds like you need to be there as best you can but you need to live your life, do what must be done so you and your hubby can be together to build your new life together.

((hugs)) and best of luck.  Try and keep your chin up girl.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

*hugs*

I am so sorry that you are going through all this.

Moving in itself is rough and now moving across country is extra tough! Is there anyway you can contract out for the work that you have in your current town? Is there a way you can find a room to rent that would be cheap while you are in town?

I am sorry about your mom. Alcoholism not only hurts the person suffering from it but it hurts everyone who knows the person. I really feel for you because someone close to me is suffering from this. Have you tried to talk to her about AA? Have you thought about going to support groups for the family of those affected my alcoholism. Sometimes talking about it is really the best thing you can do for yourself.

And I am sorry about your hair. I know it seems like such a silly thing to cry about but this happened to me and my eyebrows. I was so stressed about other things that I broke down because the eyebrow lady messed my face up. Did you go back and ask for your money back? Maybe they can offer you a silk treatment to get some moisture back in?

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

I’m so sorry. (((hugs))) Just try to breathe and take it one day at a time.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

For accommodation, have you looked into the possibility of house-sitting in your area?

Or, living in with a single mom who works nights? nurse, police officer etc. It is so hard to find someone who can be reponsible for children at night.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

@julies1949: That’s such a great idea.  Here where I live, there are always all kinds of things in the local newspaper for families who live far away/have their own lives looking for someone to live with their aging parent to cook them meals, maybe do light cleaning 1-2x/week and just make sure they’re taken care of should they fall or need to go to the hospital for typical aging stuff.

I’m so sorry for how you are feeling, but I definitely would recommend that you seek some counseling (especially Al-anon) and consider an antidepressant.  I’ve seen it work wonders and medication combined with therapy is sooo helpful in conquering depression.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

oh hun, that’s horrible, life is so hard and unfair at times. I hope everything falls into place for you and things start looking up for you.

Come on life! give this girl a break! good luck and keep your head up.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

๐Ÿ™ I’m so sorry you’re dealing with so much. I just wanted to offer some internet hugs and support.

And the salon should definitely give you your money back if they didn’t tell you about the risks!

Post # 13
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2871 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I dont have much in the way of a solution for what is going on with you.

I can only say that I am very sorry you are going through this right now. It does sound like there is a lot on your plate at the moment.

Just try to take things one day at a time and try not to focus on everything at once, tackle one issue at a time.

Major hugs coming your way.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m so sorry things aren’t going well for you. My mother was an alcoholic too and we always tried to help her, but she didn’t want the help. Life turned her that way and there was nothing we could do. So I feel bad for you, but you have to worry about you. You come first, period. I don’t know enough about hair to offer any advise on that. But for me, I’ve been through hell and  back and know my way around hell blindfolded. All I can offer you, is that everything has an ending. No matter what if life you go through, at some point it will end and something new will begin. When I get down or frustrated, I hold onto that and say to myself…this too will pass.  Things will pass. I don’t know how religious you are (me so so) but I love to read Eccelsiates, and if you think about it, it’s not really religious, but about life…sooo…but any way it brings life into perpective for me. Try it. My favorite part of it Ecclesiastes 3. Where it says that there is a time for everything. So what ever I’m going through in my life..I say..oh it must be that time..but that time will end, because there are times for other things. If you read the words, and ignore it coming from the bible..it makes a whole lot of sense.

Ecclesiastes 3 is: 

There is a time for everything,
   and a season for every activity under the heavens:

 2 a time to be born and a time to die,
   a time to plant and a time to uproot,
 3 a time to kill and a time to heal,
   a time to tear down and a time to build,
 4 a time to weep and a time to laugh,
   a time to mourn and a time to dance,
 5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
   a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
 6 a time to search and a time to give up,
   a time to keep and a time to throw away,
 7 a time to tear and a time to mend,
   a time to be silent and a time to speak,
 8 a time to love and a time to hate,
   a time for war and a time for peace.

You can read Ecclesistes here: http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ecclesiastes%201&version=ESV

Sorry if I offended anyone with using the bible…not my intention, but just trying to offer the only advise I can give.

Good Luck, hang in there.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Oh, honey I am so sorry… The only advice I can offer is to compartmentalize… try to breathe and take one thing at a time. Remember that this is all transitional and things will get better… 

Post # 16
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7387 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Great advice above, but speaking from my own experienc, I had reached my breaking point and finally went to therapy. I had so much built up that I didn’t even recognize it. Believe me when I tell you I had no health insurance, limited income and couldn’t afford it but I was desperate.

I would breakdown and cry at work (a big no, no in my book) I had no balance,  was just miserable and dealing with close family members that suffered from mental illness. I found a place worked on a sliding scale fee structure. It was a HUGE sacrifce come up that that extra $42 a week (in addition to al my expenses) but I just made cutbacks where I could, because it just came to the point were I couldn’t NOT afford to go. Taking charge of my life in this manner, literally saved my sanity. 

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