(Closed) Seriously Thinking Of Leaving Him… His Lack Of Hygiene Is Driving Me Nuts!!!

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 61
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4 posts
Wannabee

cuanta:  Hi! I’m very sorry you’re going through this. I hope you and your husband find a resolution soon.

The reason I’m commenting, however, is because I thought you should know that a writer from the site MadameNoire has stolen your post and posted it as an article on their site. The writer is notorious for lifting (copying and pasting) stories from Reddit and I guess she’s now moved on to Wedding Bee. I don’t know if she asked for permission, but I did think it was important for you to know. Here’s the link to your story: http://madamenoire.com/613236/is-bad-hygiene-grounds-for-divorce/

Post # 62
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881 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

julies1949:  

I have to say that I agree with you. I couldn’t even date a man who stinks let alone marry him. 

Post # 64
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881 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

bklynbridetobe:  

OMG! I laughed when I read your post because it was funny but then I felt bad.

You are right even though you were harsh. 

Post # 65
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1756 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I had a college boyfriend who was like that.  I did everything to get him to shower/wash his hair but he wouldn’t.  I started taking extreme measure when we were going out somewhere, like squirting shampoo on his head while he was playing games on his computer, or spraying him with the kitchen sprayer if he walked into the kitchen to get a snack. Needless to say, that relationship didn’t work out.

Post # 66
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893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Any updates, OP?

Oh, and if your husband still thinks you’re PMSing, show him this thread.

Post # 67
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338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

cuanta:  that is gross and unacceptable. You shouldn’t have to mother him and tell him to shower. How often us he showering? hygiene issues can be a sign of mental health issues like depression. 

Post # 68
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312 posts
Helper bee

Make a list of things you Love about your husband. If the stink outweighs that list, leave.

Post # 69
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4 posts
Wannabee

mrswhitecat:  It really is! She stole another Wedding Bee story yesterday so I posted on that thread as well. This writer was stealing from Reddit and I guess people started complaining so now she’s ventured to this website. It’s the laziest form of journalism I’ve ever seen on the web aside from flat-out plagiarizing.

Post # 71
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656 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

If this bothers you to the point that you are considering divorce, then he needs to know that. If I were you though, I would stop cooking and doing other things for him. When he questions what is happening, you explain that since he is unwilling to keep up with himself, why should you keep up with his things? If he refuses to listen to you and ackowledge your legitimate concerns, he doesn’t deserve your consideration. And tell him that he unfortunately has pushed you to this point by acting like a little kid. If he still doesn’t listen or change, then you have a decision to make. I honestly wouldn’t put up with something like that. But a marriage is worth working for, and you two have some working to do.

Post # 72
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332 posts
Helper bee

cuanta:  Not so much the cooking for him, but what if you stop being intimate until he finally truly makes an effort to solve this problem?

Because honestly, that’s really the best way for you to show that his smell makes you unattracted to him. 

Post # 73
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886 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

cuanta:  This is ridiculous. Time for you to start acting like a b*tch (your words).

1) Shower before bed or you don’t get into the bed. He can sleep on the couch.

2) Shower before sex or you don’t get sex. 

3) Wear deodorant every day.

I would try the spray kind of deodorant that is super easy to apply. You can even carry it around with you and ask him to raise his arms and spray if he smells. No I’m not kidding with this suggestion – he is acting like a child, you should treat him like one. 

Post # 74
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205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Definitely a deal breaker. You can go to therapy and make sure he isn’t depressed and hopefully work things out, but if he’s being a dick about it too, then I’d get serious about going to therapy and if that doesn’t work, getting a divorce. It’s in sickness and in health, not in douchiness and bad hygiene. 

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