(Closed) SERIOUSLY….Who ASKS to be a bridesmaid???????

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
1867 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@BeSeeingYou:  I have 3 girls in the wedding and 2 are Maid/Matron of Honor, so I only have 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man, but to be honest I wish it was just my two Maid/Matron of Honor.  The Bridesmaid or Best Man is my Future Sister-In-Law.  She’s not very girly and really won’t be all that thrilled to be in the wedding.  Luckily I have a great Maid/Matron of Honor that said she’d tell her to smile and act happy if she needs to. LOL

So we’re kind of opposite!

Post # 18
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@HoneyBear: Is she a really close friend? Some who think they are like your BFF automatically assume they are a part of the wedding party. While feelings may be hurt ever so slightly, just break it to her gently?

At least you’re not being told you have to have someone as your Bridesmaid or Best Man . . . my sister and I have a cat and dog relationship (the bad way). We can get along for a little while, but give us some time and we’ll be fighting like there’s no tomorrow.

Post # 19
4322 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@HoneyBear: My sister demanded to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. Sorry. That’s for my bestie. Sisters are just BMs since I have more than one.

Post # 20
4652 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I had a friend tell me that she was upset that she want a bridesmaid But seriously I already have 5 I can NOT add another….

But all but 1 of my bridesmaids assumed they were the Maid/Matron of Honor… to there surprise IM not having one… lol

Post # 21
11050 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@HoneyBear: Ooh ouch. But well dealt with.

Post # 22
11376 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

YES, hubby & I wasn’t sure if we would have the money to get married in the church like we wanted to. So we had planned on getting married in the court house until we found out we would have the money for our church wedding. So I called and told well of course my mom and a few people. Then called a friend whom I don’t see much due to distance and stuff but we do talk on the phone alot. So, I told her in excitment that we would be having a church wedding and she very bluntly said “am I going to be in the wedding?” I was floored. I got out of it though. Id say in person was ALOT harder!

Post # 23
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yep, one of my bridesmaids assumed her position, but I would have asked her, so thats okey. I do however have a close friend that started asking about my bridal party the moment we got engaged. I am not including her in the bridal party and by now she knows this, but before she knew she made statements like “all the important people are in the bridal party”, “people do not care about other guests”, REALLY…come on, that’s just weird and totally UNTRUE!

Post # 25
5109 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Lol I think you handled this well.. It is weird when people ask..

Post # 26
9024 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have a similar experience. I have a girl who has asked me constantly to be a Maid/Matron of Honor just because she happens to be close friends with my MOH and then even added me on facebook just so she could ask me on my wall!!! I keep telling her I already chose my BMs and sorry you arent one of them. Now she refuses to talk to me. Clearly she isnt really my friend.

Post # 28
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yeah, people definitely ask this.  It sucks.  Fortunately I was able to cap it at 4 BMs. I’m kinda mean though – I have no problems telling people “No”

Post # 29
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had a coworker just assume she was in my wedding.  She kept saying things like “Well, when we throw your shower…” and “For your bachelorette party, we’ll…”  I was kind of taken aback, flattered, and guilted all at once.  It was a really awkward conversation when she asked how many bridesmaids there would be and I said six and then named six other girls. 

Post # 30
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Oh, wow…. one of my FI’s nieces asked, ON HIS FACEBOOK WALL if she could be in the wedding.

He ignored her, lol.  I was like, WTF?!?!?!  WHY is she asking YOU, when I’m the bride?!?  (not that I would’ve asked her, mind you, but still….)


Of course, one of my FI’s best bud’s girlfriend keeps saying I should have a tattoo.  Umm, NO.  Even after I said, “No, it’s not my style” and “it’s not me” she keeps trying to push a tattoo on me.  Saying I have a great back and it’d be perfect for a huge tattoo.  Um…. I have a great back that I’m VERY proud of BECAUSE it’s flawless!  GAH!!!!

people will have the nerve to say/ask/do what they want no matter what.  You just gotta slap ’em down (often with a cast iron skillet) every time. 😉

Post # 31
1109 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I was married once before this time, and when I was talking to one of my friends about the colors I was going to choose for the bridal party she said “I look really good in that color!”  with like a huge grin. It didnt bother me because I wanted to ask her, but hadn’t known her for that long and wasn’t sure if she would even want to, but after that I pretty much knew.   It didnt really bother me that she said something like that though because its just her personality to be like that

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