Post # 1
I have a question about serving dinner. I am planning on having an evening Friday night ceremony (starting at 5:30-6:00) in the fall. My groom and I are not doing “first look” photos so we are doing all of our pics after the ceremony. That means guests probably won’t be able to eat until 7-7:30. I am trying to figure out if I need to serve a full 3 course meal at that hour or if it would be acceptable to do heavy appetizers, cake, and cobbler? It would obviously be specified on the invitations so guests would know what to expect. Is this acceptable or rude?
Post # 2
Since your reception is during regular meal times, you really need to provide a meal.
Post # 3
Yes. You’re having your wedding during meal time. You need to have cocktail hour and a full meal.
Post # 4
Agreed with PP. If you moved your ceremony a bit later, you could probably get away with doing heavy appetizers. But since your guests will be with you from 5:30-9 (at least, assuming a SUPER SHORT reception), and since that encompasses all of normal dinner time, you really need to serve dinner.
Post # 5
I think you need to provide a full meal and most likely appetizers during cocktail hour while you are taking photos.
Post # 6
You absolutely need to provide a meal. Espeically since you’re making people wait around for over an hour.
Post # 7
Okay thanks everyone! I was planning on a full meal but just got a little worried that maybe it was too late and no one would really eat (I personally eat dinner really early usually so I wasn’t sure what the average person would think)
Post # 8
galady18 : You really should provide appetizers during the cocktail hour since its going to be over an hour. And then a proper dinner after you’re done with photos.
Post # 9
galady18 : As other PPs have mentioned, don’t forget appetizers for the cocktail hour.
Post # 10
Nope, that’s a typical dinner time for weddings (ceremony tends to be 6pm, cocktail hour 6:30-7:30 where drinks and apps are served, and then dinner).
Wedding dinners starting late is ok because there are apps served at cocktail hour to hold you over. Thank goodness, since I’m someone that eats dinner at 6pm typically.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2018 - Tizer Gardens/Carroll College
galady18: We did a nice cocktail hour with some antipasta, vegetable, and fruit trays, and then had “dinner” at 7:15.
Dinner included every type of food you can imagine, but was in no way shape or form considered your standard “chicken and a roll and a side and a salad.” Our guests raved about the choices they were afforded, and no one went away hungry. I have zero regrets about doing something out of the norm, and I would say your guests would be open to it as well. My one main rule was to stay away from anything that dripped (sauces), and that you had to cut with a knife. Worked awesome!