(Closed) Serving vegan at Wedding – Opinions

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Post # 76
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

We’re both vegetarian and our wedding will be too. It’s two meals (in the UK at least) – people will survive one 3 course wedding breakfast and 1 evening buffet without meat. We’ve survived plenty of weddings as vegetarians with rubbish or no veggie food (FI was seriously served fish risotto at one with no side veg so he survived the entire 12 hours on his meat eating friend’s carrots and some crisps from the evening buffet).

I would go vegan for the wedding if Fiance is on board. I love the idea someone else mentioned of doing chips and baps for chip butties for the evening buffet. Lots of meat eaters will happily eat chips on their own as a meal, I certainly did when I ate meat. And who in the UK doesn’t love a good chip butty (have red and brown sauce at the ready!)

Post # 77
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017

The last wedding I attended was vegan, and I was not thrilled, not only because I’m a quasi-picky eater with sensory issues but because both of the options were a little adventurous. That said, I would never not attend a wedding of someone I cared about because of their menu choices. But I do wish that the bride and groom had thought a little more about what their guests would enjoy eating. I don’t think it’s fair to make a vegan serve 120 portions of chicken and steak just because people want meat, but at the same time I think it’s important to try to find foods that have common ground and a lot of people like — pasta, potatoes, and the like would have been greatly appreciated. 🙂

Post # 79
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Okay so I read the thread, as well as your menu. Your menu sounds great, except its like 90% vegetarian with the cheese. Removing the cheese, and it really goes downhill IMO. A lot of the items sound more like canapes than a mains. I would steer so clear of the ‘nut roast’, as that will come off like a fake meat/soy roast, and the non vegs will probably be turned off by it. But honestly, if you kept the other stuff as is (with the cheese) it sounds pretty good.

I see you saw my reply haha. I think trying to call attention to any social issue (ie endangered animals) at a wedding is inappropriate. To me, it looks pushy and activisty, etc. This is my opinion, and whether you care about it or not (I’m leaning towards not lol), I think some of your guests might share it. Obviously up to you, but I’d leave social issues off a joyus occasion like a wedding. Donating to charity in lieu of a gift is 100% preachy. If you donate money and DONT preach about it, it’s still donated. If that is something important to you, I’d just donate the money and leave it at that. Telling everyone how great of a person you are because you donated $ to charity makes it less charitable IMO.

Post # 80
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Wow, some of you are a bit too concerned with judging others. There’s no need to single people out, their opinion is just as valid as yours. OP I wouldn’t care for your menu and its not bc I absolutely need meat for every meal but bc the specific selections you’ve posted don’t sound particularly appealing or appetizing. Thats just my personal thought. But I find it amusing that there’s usually a push for at least one vegan option on menus to accommodate the minority yet no one ever pushes for a meat option on vegan menus. Its your wedding, have whatever theme or menu you choose. I doubt anyone will starve but I also don’t think it would hurt you to consider this menu will not appeal to everyone and give that some thought.

Post # 81
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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ethereal594 :  Normally I would say that you should serve meat since meat-eaters serve vegetarian/vegan options at their receptions but since your theme is Endangered species (which I love btw!) I would say go vegan (or maybe vegetarian to be a little less extreme) so the menu goes with the theme. To be honest with you if I went to your wedding and knew of the theme and then saw a roasted pig on the table I’d be really confused.

Post # 82
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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heavenlyflower :  There’s a push for a vegan option on menus because you cannot ask a vegan to eat animal products. They cannot, will not, and should not have to be forced to eat animal products. Meat eaters, on the other hand, have no reason for not eating a vegan meal other than just being picky. Your not asking a meat eater to go against their moral principles and lifestyle by sucking it up and eating ONE SINGLE vegan meal in their life.

OP do the vegan meal, its seriously one meal. Be true to yourself. Wedding food is known for being crappy anyways, guaranteed it can’t be worse than the crappy chicken and fish I got at the last wedding I attended.

Post # 83
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

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ktsteimel :  I saw this coming. You’re the main one singling people out and judging without cause which frankly makes you seem like a total d*ck. Vegan is a CHOICE, eating meat is a CHOICE. No one is ever “forced” to eat meat or anything else from a menu. Just like if I attend an event with 100% vegan options I’m not forced to eat whats provided. I can choose to eat what I wish or choose to not eat at all. My point is its nice to be considerate of and accommodate EVERYONE regardless of your personal feelings. Now you enjoy your day, perhaps with fewer snarky comments to others. 

Post # 86
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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heavenlyflower :  Damn right I’m singling people out, no need for me to be passive agressive and say “SOME people are saying XYZ….”. Just copy their quote, reply to them directly and done.

Snarky comments are one thing but no need to call people d*cks. Worked up much? Of course you arent forced to eat anything at a vegan wedding. Go have fun and starve the whole time for all I care.

Post # 87
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

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ktsteimel :  👍

Post # 88
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Worker bee

I have been to a vegan wedding and it was lovely.  I can’t believe people would make a fuss about not having meat at one meal!  Its ridiculous.  Do people not eat pasta?  I think as long as you have something “basic” like a pasta, no one will starve.

Post # 89
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

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ethereal594 :  Donations made in someone’s honor are kinda cringe-worthy favors. There is nothing wrong with simply making the donation and skipping the favors, but it’s kind of smug to say to a guest “I was going to spend money on a trinket for you, but I decided for you that you’d rather have a donation to a charity that you didn’t get to choose, don’t you feel honored?”   So please, support your charity, but don’t make a show about it.  

As for the food, I’d ask the caterer to make specific vegan dishes for your tasting. Removing cheese from a vegetarian dish may make it technically vegan but it doesn’t automatically make it taste good, and I think it’s important that the dishes be designed to taste good as vegan, not designed to taste good as something else then modified at the last minute.  Frankly some of those choices won’t do well at all once the cheese is removed, and that’s ok; not everything converts properly to vegan.  But if your goal is a vegan menu, start with vegan dishes.

While it’s true that vegan is a lifestyle choice, the fact that it’s almost universally adopted due to ethical concerns puts it in the same category as religion.  Being a picky eater and insisting on a meat meal or having a long list of ingredients you want to avoid because you simply don’t like them isn’t the same as having a religious restriction, medical condition or moral opposition. This is why it’s crucial to provide some proper vegan choice to vegans at a non-vegan meal (or kosher options, or halal, or whatever) but it’s not as crucial to honor every whim of every picky eater.

Post # 90
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Bee Keeper

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ethereal594 :  My only concern would be with allergies. Many vegan dishes have a lot of nuts. But if none of your guests is allergic, I have no concerns! We had a vegan option at ours and it was also nut safe. Everyone who got it said it was delicious! It was a quinoa salad with avocado and was quite substantial and filling. 

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