(Closed) Set the Date/Booked the Venue, BUT Mom demands date change *VENT*

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

You know what? If you want it on a Friday, keep it on a Friday. This is your MOTHER, she will be (mostlikely) there  at 2 am on aTuesday to be at your wedding. Want to know how I know this? My fi’s parents own a business. We told them That we were considering eloping in Jamaica.  Now these people did not close the store for his graduations, and a big ass flood that turned our little town into an island. They told us do what we want and if they need to close the store for aweek to see us get married, then so be it. We were warned that they would bitch about it when the time came, but hey would be there. 

Its your day.

Post # 4
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635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

She only gets a voice if she pays or you give her one. If you and your Fiance are paying, tell her you respect her opinion but you and your FH have decided it’s what u want and u hope she supports you.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

If you can’t afford it on the Saturday, I say stick with Friday.  Once you are paying for it yourself, you have more control.  Once she starts paying for things, unfortunately you are going to lose more and more control.  Your  mom will be there no matter what day it is.   I don’t know what kind of buisness they have and if its possible for them to close up early but they have enough notice that they can have it published that on that day they will be closed.  Good Luck!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I’m sorry, but they can close the shop, or find someone to fill in. Think about it- what would they do if there was a family funeral on a Friday?? 

If she’s truly willing to pay the date change, I’d recommend getting the money from her upfront. Although if she’s going to have “pull” with contributing, probably not worth it.

Post # 8
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1111 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

This is probably just her initial reaction because she is irritated at the inconvenience.  Your wedding date is over a year away, and I bet you anything that after her immediate annoyance subsides, she will find a way to make it work.  It is unfortunate that she isn’t acting more accommodating from the get-go, but I say stick to your Friday plan and everything else will fall into place.

Where there is a will, there is a way.  She’ll make it work.  Don’t change your date.

Post # 9
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368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Will she lose over $2500 by closing her business early/for a day? If not (I imagine not…) then it’s not worth it anyway. If she’s offering to shell out the extra money to move it to Saturday, then she should be willing to shell out the money to just close the business a bit early and not bully you into something you don’t want.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

DON’T DO IT!  TRUST ME!!!  I have walked in your shoes sister and I still regret it.  FI’s parents didn’t want to close their business for our Destination Wedding wedding and we cancelled and changed the location AFTER they told us to go ahead and plan it and AFTER we put deposits down.  I’m still out $1100 that they said they would pay back and haven’t. A year later after not talking or even acknowledging our wedding, they’re sticking their nose where it doesn’t belong and isn’t wanted and Fiance and I are fighting over it. I am still so pissed off at them and even more pissed off at him for falling for the snow job they’re working right now.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@mmmk:  No we cancelled the Destination Wedding last year and are having a local wedding this year. I regret going along with it and wished I had fought harder for my Destination Wedding. Fi fell for their shenanigans hook line and sinker.  Today Future Mother-In-Law told Future Sister-In-Law: “I didn’t want them to get married last year.” Thanks for confirming exactly what I thought.

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